My boyfriend isn't letting me breakup?

[Anonymous]

Okay so here is goes. I have been dating the guy for almost 2.5 years now. And I am really not happy in this relationship. I have conveyed it to him on many occasions, but I end up seeing him cry so just let go of my thoughts and stay with him. Right now I am feeling very frustrated because whenever I talk about taking a break so that I can distance myself from him he just refuses by saying but we were happy 2 days ago. We did this together, why do we need a break. I am tired of explaining that I am not happy. He's just not letting me go. If I block him he just calls texts through other accounts or numbers. I can't share this with my family members because they are strict and they'll be very angry if they get to know I have been dating behind their back.
I am really frustrated right now please help 🙏🏻

[N192K001]

My older-sister wasted 15years of her life on a marriage that wasn't really meant to be, just because her soon-to-be-ex-husband used suicide-threats to keep her. So now, breakup requires a legal-procedure of divorce. Are you fine with a similar future?

The sooner you can cut your losses, the better. He has no say in this. The relationship is already dead to you. Would he rather you cheat on him or he let you go?

「I can't share this with my family members because they are strict and they'll be very angry if they get to know I have been dating behind their back.」
Yes, dating before the breakup was wrong, but…
① the truth will eventually come-out. It always does. Do you want some control on the flow of information, or in ways, timings, and circumstances outside of your control?
② this is being used against you, given that you have a resource (your family) that you cannot harness to combat this tyranny over you. Wouldn't it be better to pull the band-aid from the hairy-place already, and then finally be able to ask the the much-needed help, given that your own efforts to end the abusive abusive relationship is obviously failing?
③ this non-stop deception (by omission, re-framing, and/or outright lies) on your family-members is certainly harming your familial relationships. With more time, more damage will be done, and the good-will & willingness to support you may decrease as well. Wouldn't it be more advantageous to stop it and get their support while their willingness & good-will levels are there they are now, & not lower?
④ this can be used even more against you as blackmail if/when he eventually learns of your infidelity and decides to us threats to coerce you into things you oppose even more. Own the fact to your family, so whatever he says to them in the future cannot be used against you.

[Adam1978]

The whole idea of taking a break doesn't exist either you break up or you don't. And there is nothing he can do if you decide to break up. You should take a break from relationships so him reaching out from new accounts are not a problem. Because you should block him. You should ignore him. Ie only speak to him on your terms.

[missmels]

He can’t stop a break up, that’s abusive. Let him know if he keeps up this behavior than you will have to seek out help from your family (which will blow things up) and the authorities to get a restraining order. It may start as an empty threat, but should get the point across. But be ready to do it if things escalate. Don’t respond to any of his attempts to reach out, block every number/account/however he reaches out to you. Eventually he should get tired and stop.

[Christine8]

You know what if you want to break up and you are sure of it than just break it up. Because you need to put yourself as number one priority. Trust me I have been in this situation and things do not get any better through out the years. If he can’t respect you now and your decision then you will just be making him happy over your self by staying.
Trust me it’s not worth it