Why doesn't my boyfriend want to break up?

[Anonymous]

What's the reason for a guy not wanting breaking up? And why?

[Avicenna]

It can be for any number of reasons. Sometimes fear of being alone.

[Asker]

I see.. he made mistakes and it makes me better to break up bcs I just can't.. and he said "no, you'll regret it" we often fight.. I caught him lying.. I just found out that he still on dating app 5 days ago and I said let's breakup I'm not an option he said no.. I don't know what to do.. what should I do..

[Avicenna]

Could be he just wants to keep you around until he finds some other woman on the dating app. No matter, if you aren't getting what you want, then don't stick around.

[Asker]

I told him that too.. he said no.. I feel unhappy

[pianogirlmeow]

so you’ve broken up with him but he didn’t accept it? he doesn’t need to. just be firm with ur words. He’s cheating on you and looking at other options, sounds like he’s just waiting with you till he finds the next girl. Don’t let him use you. End it

[_Maya_]

Why would you think anyone wants to break up? Do you get into a relationship and then think to yourself I wanna break up? I don't understand the question really. No one gets into a relationship with the intention of breaking up. Unless you have done something awful like cheat on him then why in the world would he want to break up with you? There is always a reason for ending a relationship and if he doesn't have one then he isn't going to want to break up.

[Asker]

Yes he did!

[_Maya_]

Yes he did... what?

[Asker]

I see.. he made mistakes and it makes me think better to break up bcs I just can't.. and he said "no, you'll regret it" we often fight.. I caught him lying.. I just found out that he still on dating app 5 days ago and I said let's breakup I'm not an option he said no.. what will you say Maya? Seems like you know very well about relationship lol

[_Maya_]

He seems incredibly toxic if he has done all of that to you. I would just tell him you are done. Doesn't matter if he doesn't wanna break up. Not his choice. You have every right to end it and cut contact. You are NOT a hostage to him.

[Asker]

I just texted him to breakup and he said no again.. sounds like I have to turn off my phone for few days

[Asker]

Thank you maya

[_Maya_]

Yeah I would block him. Who tf is he to say no like you have no choice? That right there is a massive red flag. What a sociopath this guy is. Yeesh.

[AviatorTom]

If he cares about you and the relationship you two have, he's not going to want to break up.

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't want to break up because he is very beautiful and I don't want anyone else. This can be the reason as well or fear of being alone many reasons could be.

[Asker]

I think so too.. fear of being alone.. he made mistakes and it makes me think better to break up bcs I just can't.. and he said "no, you'll regret it" we often fight.. I caught him lying.. I just found out that he is still on the dating app 5 days ago and I said let's breakup I'm not an option he said no.. I don't know what to do.. what should I do.. I tried to block him on everywhere and he still texted me with new number

[adam6402]

He doesn't have to want to break up for you to leave. If he's using you, dump him. It doesn't have to be a mutual decision. YOU can break up with him.

[andreasderjuengere]

A lack of alternatives?

Feeling ok the way it is?

Being busy with more important stuff?

or...

perhaps he just likes you... :)

[LiamJHayden]

1. Fear of being alone.
2. The hassle of starting over.
3. The possibility that the girl will paint him as a bad guy for dumping her without reason.

I am sure others can come up with more.

[Billlewis]

The number one reason is that he doesn't want to give up sex.

[Der_Ritter]

That's way too vague for you to get a straight answer

[RedInnocent68]

Fear of losing access to easy pussy is most common.

[Billlewis]

Yeah, I told her that yesterday, but you can never reiterate it enough times;)

[RedInnocent68]

I'm coming to learn there’s lots of those that need reiteration 😉 if you have to ask, yes he likes you… 😂

[Billlewis]

Who likes me?

[boggboss]

Because he knows he can do what he wants and your too weak to move on so he gets whatever he wants

[Nylife20j]

First off why breakup? To me a woman that wants to leave leave. It just proves that they can't come back. You have to be tough. Time wasters. I hate that in a passion. Wasting time seriously.

[AngryCarl2]

He's a loser and thinks (probably quite correctly) that no one else will have him.

[MaxUsefull]

I believe whether he wants it or not, it doesn't matter

[Analorr]

Maybe the pussy is what he wants

[boobliker]

how can we know that?

[Twalli]

He's still in love with you

[MusHadi08]

May he wants to give another chance

[In_Trance]

Did you ask him why?

[Asker]

He never answered..