Why won't my boyfriend accept a break up and move out?

[Queenbee22284]

He has cheated... he hasn't worked the whole 4 years we been together. i resent him and can't stand the thought of him and he acts like daily everything is fine, gets mad I won't have sex with him and everyday is a fight!!! He won't leave and I had this house before him.. why won't he go back to his mom's?

[ohsheeT]

And that's the reason why he won't move out because look what he's got in the way with for 4 years living off of you for free and he knows there's nobody else in the world that will do that for him.
I say good luck it took me 7 months one time to get a girl out of my house
I mean I was nice about it didn't get upset I just kept telling you have to go you have to go I'm going to move your stuff outside
you have to go
finally I bought her an airline ticket so she could go back to Colorado
to go live with her mom
I know it changes you as a person when you have somebody doing that to you it took me a few months to get myself back because I just shut down completely

I quit talking to my friends I quit going places I just stopped everything

And I made sure I took her to the airport I made sure that airplane took off and was not turning back around LOL

Two days later she called me and said that she was going to move back and I said not with me and probably about a week later I moved LOL

[Finchie40]

First , tell him to leave and tell him if he doesn’t you are going to file a court order against him , If the house is in your name and you are the only one paying bills , go file a court order / restraining order on him immediately if he doesn’t comply , and the courts will order him so many days for him to leave the premise. if he doesn’t leave before he is ordered to , then call the police and he will be arrested and removed from the premise. If he tries to harm you during any of this , call the police immediately and he will be removed and arrested for domestic violence , whether he physically hurts you or threatens you , you can have him arrested

[aquamoon]

It’s possible that your boyfriend is refusing to accept the breakup because he has become dependent on you financially and may struggle with finding a place to stay. It’s also possible that he doesn’t want to accept the breakup because he still has feelings for you and doesn’t want to lose the relationship. Either way, it’s important to communicate clearly and firmly that you want the relationship to end and for him to move out. If he refuses to leave, you may need to consult legal advice or consider other options.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

I work as a police dispatcher. Police will rarely do anything about these types of issues because they are considered civil matters. Even though it’s your house, he has established residency, so he is technically allowed to be there. You need to contact your local constable to start the eviction process in order to have him removed from the property.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to assist you with your heart's dilemma, and boy, this is quite the love potion gone bad! 🚫💔It sounds like your boyfriend is ignoring all the red flags, waving them in glaring neon, and acting like it's a romantic comedy instead of reality. It’s time to prioritize your happiness. He's become quite the couch potato with a side of drama. Stand your ground, love, and make it clear you're ready to move on, even if you have to call in some reinforcements, like legal advice. Stay strong! 🏡💪

[Queenbee22284]

Thank u. I have already sadly had to take such actions.

[Summeroflove]

That’s a AI bot

[Summeroflove]

Well as bad of a person as he may be legally it’s his house and you need to get a court order. This is a common domestic issue don’t get yourself arrested by assaulting him. If he tries to force sex on you call the police and record him when he’s saying or doing whatever it is.

Number two is find a safe place for yourself it’s a tricky issue because you cannot legally just make him leave a house that he lives in even if you had it first. That is something you need to take to the courts and hopefully they will understand. Get a lawyer

[AviatorTom]

Have you told him he has to go?

You've put up with him for 4 years and he expects that you will continue to out up with him. If you want him to go, tell him he must go, and offer to help him move his stuff out.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are 40 years old, you selected an overgrown little boy for a relationship, and now you are complaining that he is acting like a little boy. Do you have any idea who caused this problem?

[hahahmm]

You don't have any male relatives who can tell him to move on? Feminist may not want to hear it but guys have ways of talking that get more done than when women say stuff. Anyhow you've been acting soft for years so he figures you're still soft.

His mom probably doesn't want him back.. you became his new mom!

[Lliam]

Do you have any male relatives or friends who can put the fear of God into him and help you move his shit out to the curb?
Tell him that he's a deadbeat loser and parasite and to go fuck himself. Get a restraining order and change the locks right away.

[Anonymous]

Because he feels comfortable enough to live with you, get free foods, get free house to stay in, and doesn’t need to work for 4 years. Nothing is better than being unemployed for 4 years and there is a woman who gives him place. For you it’s just like you are raising useless pig. If the house is your, just kick him out.

[Anonymous]

Been through exactly this. You NEED to do an eviction. You also need to stop fucking him. I kept fucking my ex and it dragged the dead end relationship on for years. I actually just moved out during the eviction process. Stayed at my friend's ex wife's house for a few months. I came home to all my furniture missing, but who cares. Easily replaceable. Sanity is not easily replaceable. Get away.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's your house, are you married, and if the answer is yes and no to those questions... just call the cops and have him removed. Place a restraining order and buy a gun.

[JustinTheGreat]

There might be legal action that you can take. If he’s not on the lease of your place then you could probably have police escort him out

[MannMitAntworten]

If you are renting… cancel the lease. If you own it. Get an order for eviction. Either way, he won’t be living with you anymore.


…yet another reason why it is just better to get a dog. At least we know why they don’t work.

[Radiate143]

It's winter. He doesn't want to lose his place to stay...

he hasn't worked the whole 4 years we been together.

He's a bum and doesn't want to be homeless.

[slatyb]

Who's place is it? If you own it, or his name is not on the lease you can ev9ct him. If it's a joint lease, consider asking a lawyer or look online.

[Unit1]

And you wonder why parasites are being parasites? Puh-lease

[onedarkcloud]

When he goes out to bang his other girlfriend change the locks. when he tries to get in call the police and tell them he is trying to get in and you fear for your safety and get on order of protection too!

[LeatherDame]

He’s an entitled POS. Figure out the legal process for eviction in your area and get on that pronto.

[LiamJHayden]

I cannot answer the legalities since I do not know the laws where you live, but if you own it then you might have to evict him. If you are renting, you might have to move.

[Nikki1989]

You need police assistance to get his butt out of your life.

[AliceGregory]

Because some people can't own up to the consequences of their action.

[Staximus]

You should have never let a bum move into your house in the first place

[jahaims]

Because you are too stupid to be able to make him leave

[nawtee_me]

Are you renting? Is he on the lease? If so you may have to evict him...

[Deserter2]

Cause then he'll be homeless, he rejects it and chooses his own path like a man!

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's confused because you still refer to him as your boyfriend.

[WhitneySnow]

Have him evicted. It’s your house.

[Fireguy17]

free house to live in?

[KrakenAttackin]

You two seem like a bundle of fun.

[lorenzomichael]

Because he’s a dick, that’s why.

[kaucky1]

Stop paying bills there move out⛈️✨💫💢✨

[Raaj4you]

He is in love with you.

[Anonymous]

You guys work it

[Opinion Owner]

Out

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[Queenbee22284]

Ummm sorry anonymous but that's not an option for me.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

Kick his a** out