My DM's on GAG are ridiculous. I have so many guys asking me basic questions and I constantly find myself digging for old opinions that I've posted trying to help out. I figured I'd just write another take.
By no means are my tips and methods the absolute right way of doing things for everyone. I'm simply suggesting what has worked for me in the past. These are just some general tips to help some guys out who are younger and/or might be a little more inexperienced. I'm focusing on the group of men on this website who are between the ages of 18-24. I could certainly add more and will most likely extend on this take in the future.
1) Stop putting her on the pedestal.
Get all of this bullshit out of your head about being a gentleman if you're between the ages of 18-24. The only time that I would open the door for a girl is if I was going to slap her ass on the way inside. Acting like this respectful gentleman will absolutely work against you for the fact that the dynamic within our generation is much different today than what it once was.
If you want to sit here on your high moral throne and tell me I'm a douchebag because of this, then do it because I genuinely do not care. Using some basic logic, I'll tell you that you're going to be alone and bored out of your mind if you act like an upstanding gentleman at all times between the ages of 18-24.
Let's talk about women. Women are by no means to be treated in the sense of praise. If you do this, you're essentially setting yourself up for failure. What you have to remember is that women are the more selective sex at this age. An attractive young girl has plenty of options. They have the ability to pick and choose with absolutely no effort what so ever.
Do you want to know how generic a chicks DM's look like?
"Hey there sexy"
"You're amazing and I'd love to take you out".
Don't slide her DM's like this...
My girlfriend gets messages like these all the time and I cringe at half of them because they guys don't have a fucking clue as to what they are doing.
Women are not amazing. They are human beings who shit and piss just like us. Sometimes they shit and piss at the same time. A lot of them piss themselves a little every time they laugh. So let's get this fucking mindset of them being perfect out the door because they are just as disgusting and sloppy as us. They are not to be praised as goddesses and you will not be winning any girl over like this.
Her choice of whether or not she wants to date you will be dependent your value. If you're constantly praising her as if she is an amazing goddess, you are essentially telling her that she is of higher value than you. Treat women like human beings. You treat women with the same amount of respect as a guy. She has to work to impress you as well. Remember that you have value to offer.
2) Be genuine with who you are.
What you have to remember is that women are much more perceptive to certain things than us men are. If you're a guy constantly striving to make himself appear as something he is not in an attempt to score women, you will ultimately fail because that kind of bullshit is transparent to women. Women will assume that you're lying about everything even if you're telling the truth when you first meet them. Deception is very unattractive.
By acting like something you're not, you're telling her that you yourself are not good enough to win her over. So as a result, you have to manipulate her into liking you. She see's it and it turns her pussy dry. No confident and self-assured man has to resort to acting like something he is not in an attempt to score women.
Being genuine within yourself is not only attractive to women but in professional relationships as well. There are certain vibes that you get from someone when they are just genuinely real and raw. It makes you feel at ease and comfortable with them. It makes you feel as if they are human and that within itself opens a lot of doors of communication. If you do the opposite, it will leave people feeling tensed up and filled with anxiety when speaking to you.
No one is perfect and we all realize that no one is perfect. I'm an open steroid user who slept around with a ton of women without even using a condom half of the time. I openly call myself crazy. I have ADHD and make fun of myself for having it literally all the time. That's not to say my flaws define who I am, but I have absolutely no issues admitting who I am whether it's going to be perceived as right or wrong to that other person. This eliminates the anxiety factor when meeting new women as well since there is much less pressure when thinking in this mindset. I'm not talking about this kind of bullshit either.
If the woman doesn't like what you're about, then it's better to clear that up right away instead of prolonging it. Guys... I've been rejected so many times it's not even funny. I always got back on my feet though and I've been with more women than most guys my age. So considering that, what does this tell you? My approach works.
If I were to sit there and tell women that I oppose steroids and crude humor, then I'd be lying through my fucking teeth and that serves absolutely no benefit. What that would end up doing is creating this weird vibe for the fact that I'm acting like something I'm not. Conversation flows much easier when you're true to who you are.
Eventually, she will discover and find out what I'm about, and if she doesn't like it, then she's gone. What was the point of that? Now I'm left in the dust and feeling bitter and rejected because I put so much effort into this. It's much more pleasurable to sit there and find a woman who completely digs you for who you are right off the bat. So cut through that bullshit by being genuine.
If you have the ability to convey a genuine attitude towards women in regards to who you are and what you're about, it will result in women becoming more comfortable to the extent of it opening multiple doors of potential. If you do the opposite and try to appear as something you're not, it will repel women and they will instantly turn cold on you. Remember that women are a lot more perceptive to these things than you most likely think.
3) Stop placing too much emphasis about where you're at in life.
Something I always see on here is bullshit excuses. It's as if the GAGs default mindset is I have to be in this place in my life or have X amount of money or have this car. Only then will I be able to date and have money. Fuck that shit.
Women are not perfect goddesses and I already explained this. Women are dealing with just as many issues in life as you are. They are not perfect and making 6 figures out of high school either. They might be struggling with university or getting on their feet. They might have insecurities that hold them back from a lot of things in life. They might have anxiety or some type of mental illness just as you might have.
You have no idea what they are going through but they are by no means perfect. Considering that, why would you have to be perfect? News flash, you actually don't have to be perfect at all. In fact, perfect would be boring and actually hinder your chances at meeting a girl with whom you can form a genuine and real emotional connection with. We're all human beings going through life and we all have our setbacks and flaws. You don't need to be Mr. Perfect with a fancy car, money, and huge dick to get laid and meet women. That's so far from the truth. Part of forming a relationship with a girl is growing together. If you're already at the top, then you can't experience life and go through these things together.
4) Be a man on a mission.
Stop putting others needs before yourself and that includes women. Never prioritize a woman before yourself unless you're are in a fully committed relationship or married. 18-24 is the time to be selfish with your needs and establish yourself.
The most attractive demeanor a man can project is to be a man focused on his mission. You know where you want to go in life, and you're not letting anything hold you back. Women will appreciate that drive and they will resent you if you put them before yourself. The moment you start sacrificing your drive and your mission for her, she will resent you. You're going to a university that's further away than expected and it has a much better reputation than the one closer to her? Are you considering moving closer to her? Nope, you go that university that's going to benefit you more because you're determined to make your story a success by any means possible. You're not letting anything get in the way of that for your success is your priority.
5) Stop taking life so seriously and have a sense of humor.
This sort of correlates with authenticity and being genuine as I discussed above. We all have our flaws and I think it's important to own up to them. It's okay to laugh at your flaws or just laugh at yourself in general. From the ages to 18-24, life is not meant to be taken so seriously. Yes, you're establishing yourself and your future career, but at the same time, you need to have a sense of humor. Work hard and play hard has always been my what I lived by. If you're one of these younger guys that say that he doesn't like to party because it's just so beyond you, wake up. You're full of shit. Stop taking yourself so seriously and go have a damn drink with your friends and act like an idiot once in a while.
This will actually work to your benefit in every way when it comes to attracting women. Women don't want a robotic GI Joe with absolutely no feelings or a sense of humor. They want a well-balanced man with who they can vibe with and relate to on a personal level.
I come off as pretty intimidating to a lot of people because of my appearance and demeanor. I recognize that and I've learned how to actually use it towards my benefit. I quickly learned that women don't like a GI Joe robot with no emotions or sense of humor and that's the vibe I naturally give off sometimes. It repels most women because those guys are not fun to most women.
I've learned how to laugh at myself and one thing I've always done was downplay my masculinity to a sense of where it might come off as embarrassing to me at surface level. It's just so edgy and out there that it makes them laugh. I have the balls to sit there and laugh at my masculinity by telling women I watch the notebook and twilight in my free time as a joke. I'll have them think I'm serious about it for a little just for fun as well.
One thing I always told girls before I'd sleep with them was that my penis was tiny. I had a specific number of inches that I told women my penis was, and that number was 2.3 inches. I'd legitimately tell women that I have a 2.3-inch penis before I slept with them.
I pulled it off well and brought them to a ridiculous awkward moment right before sex. That's about the time I grabbed her hand on my cock and watched her face instantly light up with a smile. They would instantly start busting up laughing with a sense of relief. I know that every woman I did this with told her friends about this little story and they were probably laughing at it as well. It separated me from the other guys. I was so self-assured in myself that I could actually laugh at the one thing guys worry about the most... penis size.
This whole concept conveys an attitude that I simply don't give a shit about what you think about me. This is simply me and you can take it or leave it. Make fun of me all you want and I'll most likely laugh along. Guys who give too many fucks are the ones who sit there and try to cockfish taking dick pics at these weird ass angles in an attempt to make it look bigger. Dude... just stop it. Stop acting like you care about what people think about it. It's much more appealing to be around a careless attitude.
6) Have the ability to be genuinely interested in other people's lives.
This not only applies to women, but to relationships in general with other people as well. What you have to remember is that we are very ego driven by nature and the most important person in our life is us. If you have the ability to be genuinely interested in what someone is saying, then you will make them feel important and special. You will give off good vibes and they will be more willing to talk to you in the future.
Actually get into the conversation. Ask questions if you don't understand and try and relate it to things that you know or experiences you have been through. Compare them and try and relate to that person. Far too many people try and win others over by trying to impress them with their own lives.
With women, it's best to let your success speak for itself. It's so much more attractive when a girl learns about your success in a way of you not having to directly tell her in a formal conversation. Let her talk about herself. Watch her want to talk to you again and again.
One thing I wanted to mention on here is to stop being brainwashed by these delusional men in their mid to late twenties who have these weird distorted views on dating and women in general. This website is a damn cesspool filled with pathetic men like this. These types of men hate me on here for the fact that I call them out on their bullshit every time. Radical beliefs is never a rational solution to anything. A lot of the guys on here have radical views on women and dating.
So having said all this, take your advice on here with a grain of salt. I say that in regards to my advice as well. Take what you can and consider the advice in your own format. Meaning, take the advice and contour it to you and who you are.