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I ask this question because I noticed often times when someone’s trying to solve a conflict where a Partner is let with them, they are more so trying to extricate themselves from an uncomfortable situation of somebody being angry with them.

🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s similar to “just give me the answer” on a maths problem, rather than understanding how you arrived at the answer. Which is always going to be tempting for people at one point or another. But this doesn’t solve the problem long-term because if you don’t know what’s going on and you don’t know what causes you don’t know how to keep it from happening again, if that’s not possible sometimes conflicts come up repeatedly.

🫤 I tend NOT to see much trying to _understand_ what is happening with the other person.. what is really making them upset.

I’m sure you have seen solutions for getting out do the 🐶 🏡 that have nothing to do with learning anything, rather ways to hopefully placate the other party.. gifts treats surprises favors etc. Thats stuff is absolutely bonkers to me. Here you have a solid learning opportunity that can help everyone long term and you try to buy it off. 🤯

Or the lazy generic “how do you get a woman to forgive you” “ how do you get a man to not be angry” nothing about what that actual person is experiencing and what brought out the maybe overly dramatic reaction in that moment.

I think many people would even be _annoyed_ if they were upset and someone started asking “what are you going through? What’s happening with you, what even caused this?”

🧐 I find it very _interesting_ when someone’s really upset. I tend to not get defensive because I’m more interested in understanding what’s going on over having a fight… I mean, unless of course I’m being accused of something absolutely ridiculous that has nothing to do with me- that is annoying af 🤨 but otherwise I’m more into taking an observing position.. I have observed this can be irritating to people who are very angry, however not my intent. 👀

So I started dating this guy. We've really only gone for coffee nothing sexual. I find that he's quite passive aggressive and not necessarily open in his communication.

I don't like passive aggressive people or people that aren't good communicators. Yes I get not everyone is a good communicator but if you're not going to communicate stuff don't turn around and blame another person as this guy is done for not understanding what's going on or getting confused and frustrated.

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I have kept seeing him simply for the fact that the potential benefits, like we have similar interests we have similar mentality similar upbringing, could potentially outweigh the communication Style. Maybe he needs a little work.

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Anyway last night he said that he had to work late. That doesn't make any sense because in his job the only time he works late is when it is an emergency situation. But what it sounded like was just casual everyday work and that usually ends at 5:00 or 6:00... 7:00 at the latest.

He was still out until around 11:30 cuz he text me saying he was going home.

Anyway this morning I found out his Communications style has changed it's a little more standoffish and not as engaging as usual. Like I said he already had ticks against him that in my mind were quite severe/ this passive aggressiveness and lack of communication.

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But I don't know if I should reach out as usual communication or if that will come across as desperate or just you know wait and see what he does