How to deal with creepy coworkers when your job doesn’t have a HR?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know who to tell, everyone is all linked together. If I tell someone then they’ll tell it to somebody else and it’ll spread around. I trust my manger with other stuff but about this topic I don’t know if he’ll be helpful enough. I’m constantly hearing these creepy coworkers saying dirty jokes towards about me to me ( I don’t mind dirty jokes but when they are the same age as my dad/grandpa then no), and they are very touchy touchy and always stare at me as if I’m sort of rare meat. I’m very uncomfortable and I don’t know what to do and who to tell. I just feel like everyone I work with is just going to spread my word like some butter. Do I just keep quiet and hope they just ignore me? I mean, I have tried that but that doesn’t work. Help. P. s I can’t change jobs, I just started seven months ago and I need it so that’s not an option.

[provokeesmokee]

Go to your boss. Involve a female superior with whom you have a good relationship with. If no women work there, a) look for a new job and b) find as high-ranking a man who is on your side and whom you can trust.

Document the comments. Write them down, record them (if legal), and document who said what, when, and who was around. Bring those with you.

However, you MUST, if you feel safe, try speaking up for yourself directly to these disgusting men first.

Your boss is unlikely to do anything if you've not tried confronting them first.

Tell them you are uncomfortable, that they're as old as your father and grandfather, that you're all here to earn a paycheck and go the fuck home.

Outside of work, ask for help and advice for older women you trust who have work experience. Guaranteed they've dealt with something like this. Just knowing you're not alone can help you gain some backbone.

[Luckycharms12]

Go to your boss