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This guy approached me when he already knew his female friend for about a year. I rejected him and a few months later they are a couple. Did he at the time consider me a plan B or backup for her or was she the consolation prize?

I'm hurting right now and very upset. My suspicious were confirmed just 2 days ago when my husband left his FB messenger open. It was messages between him and my SIL (sister-in-law). He admitted to her that he always loved his ex girlfriend Olivia from his much younger years. They met as 9 year-olds playmates, then dated for a short time in their Sophomore year of HS, she broke up the next year and met someone else.

The woman is married but still has him on his FB contact list as friends. He admitted to my SIL that he still loves her more than me. He loves me but I'm not really his first option. He would've wanted to have kids with her. He also said it was true what he once told me while drunk when we were just dating. Then this was the hurting part for me, the SIL asked if he would leave me if Olivia were to get divorced now and she reciprocated his feelings and he reply was a ''Yes, unfortunately I would leave (my name) but that'll never happen. I have to accept being in Olivia's forever friendzone''.

Flashback to the time we were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

We were drinking and while making love, he called me by her name. He literally said ''Oh Olivia, I love you... yeah''. Then tried to fix it right away when I got upset immediately. He called it a stupid drunken mistake and how we would never get drunk like that ever again and even reconfirmed me a bunch of times that he got over her already. I stupidly believed him.

Is this fair? We have a 7 year-old son and he's still obsessing over her? He never got over her and just got with me as second best.

So I haven’t been official with my boyfriend for very long but he’s number one Snapchat best friends with the girl he was with before me.

To preface, I was told he liked me about 6 months ago but he never did anything about it. We were on and off number one snapchat best friends for months but he kept losing the heart and I got off the app because of it.

We were also texting for months and finally he asked me out. Come to find out he asked me out a week after the girl went back to school and was planning to hang out with her that weekend!

A few weeks go by and she asks him to make it official but he said no. We were consistently dating at this point. However, even after we were official she was his number one best friend.

I got really upset and he blocked her with no hesitation, but I still feel like he’s only using me as a placeholder. He keeps saying that’s obviously not true because he chose to be official with me and not her, but I don’t like how he had to wait to ask me out until she left. And I don’t like how they kept talking until it turned into a fight.

I don’t have any reason not to trust him as of now other than that, but my self esteem is still sort of in shambles.

What do you all think?

They won't ever see it till its way to late and they are hurt deeply again.

My sister has terrible luck with dating yet when she finds someone terrible and every one agrees and says they are awful.

She just clings harder to them.

Tried this every way I can to help but always just have to let her make her own mistakes!