My guy friend who ill call "jack" (who I'm quite sure has a crush on me since we were kids, all the signs are there plus he gave me a diamond bracelet when were 11-12 years old) chuckled softly when I told him that one of our mutual friends asked if we are dating, then he also chuckled the same way when his best friend introduced me as "jacks girlfriend" to thier other friend. "Jack" is a very very shy person. I am trying to understand what this means, if anything st all. I feel I should also mention that him and I had like a 10 year gap, he found me on Facebook and added me, he also started liking my selfies and got together with me after he found out I was single.
Why does he chuckle in this situation?
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Ok. If he’s shy then he’ll act nervous and awkward. I talk from experience as being shy most of my life. Now, the question is; do you like him? If the answer is yes then do something about it. Invite him for a drink or coffee, make him feel comfortable and talk and tell him you like him because he’s not gonna take the lead because he has no confidence in himself. Then take it from there.
Well he was the first one to connect with me actually and we have sat in his car talked for hours. We met up Ike that 2 or 3 times, I've been over at his parents house with him, I jokingly called him boyfriend over text but he never said anything (he really isn't much of a texter to begin with) one day I stroked his beard which he let me, I then said to him "what if I gave you a kiss on the cheek" then he was Iike no and walked away fast but had a big smirk on his face and his cheeks were red, we met up again another time in his car a while after that and he kinda leaned over to my side but i didn't do anything but we always hug each other, I'm the only one he hugs (other than his mother because he isn't a hugger, he's the type that is very reserved and quiet but with me he's very talkative and stares right into my eyes) I invited him over to my house and told him he is welcome anytime now that it's getting cold out we can't sit in his car to which I told him I really enjoy that and his company so the ball is in his court now
Wow, you should push for it if you really want it... Jack has issues?🤦♂️☺️
I thought guys didn't like when a woman is pushy🤷♀️ honestly, he is just a very shy guy (he has only had 1 girlfriend ever and I think he might actually still be a virgin to be honest lol)
Sure but he is different right🤦♂️ so make your mind first, do you want that or not;)
Well he doesn't give me butterflies but he is very sweet, respectful, kind, and I feel a sense of calmness and peace when I'm around him, he has been that way since we were kids lol and I know I can trust him because he's already shown me he can so ya... well I told him he is welcome over to my house anytime, next time I see him I'm going to work up the courage to plant a kiss on his cheek lol cause I do like him, I think I always have, but was nervous too (okay so we did almost hook up once when we were teens... he didn't force me into it, I ended up chickening out lol)
Ok, as you say, if he is all those things you say, it is safe, I guess, give it a try...
Thanks for the advice, i appreciate it. His exact words were "i dont scare easily" and the small group of friends he habgs out with can be extreme at times with their jokes lol. His birthday is coming up soon and I kinda want to get him something but I'm not sure if should lol
Np... It would be helpful to find out about his previous relationships, but it sounds like he does /may not have many... plant the kiss, see the reaction before birthday presents I guess..:)
You together? You said guy friend? Huh?
He gave you a necklace 18 years ago so you think he still likes you? Okay...
Well he was the first one to connect with me actually and we have sat in his car talked for hours. We met up Ike that 2 or 3 times, I've been over at his parents house with him, I jokingly called him boyfriend over text but he never said anything (he really isn't much of a texter to begin with) one day I stroked his beard which he let me, I then said to him "what if I gave you a kiss on the cheek" then he was Iike no and walked away fast but had a big smirk on his face and his cheeks were red, we met up again another time in his car a while after that and he kinda leaned over to my side but i didn't do anything but we always hug each other, I'm the only one he hugs (other than his mother because he isn't a hugger, he's the type that is very reserved and quiet but with me he's very talkative and stares right into my eyes) I invited him over to my house and told him he is welcome anytime now that it's getting cold out we can't sit in his car to which I told him I really enjoy that and his company so the ball is in his court now
I think you will have to push it to the next level. I don't see him doing it.
I suppose you're right, but in my experience, guys don't like when women are pushy, or pour their heart out to them. I was kinda seeing this guy back in the spring, we halfway hooked up, I brought him apple pie, which he didn't even say thank you then told me he isn't ready for a relationship yet ended up dating someone else so I really don't get it. This is why I turn to advice on here because I'm not the greatest with male behavior/understanding what it is they actually want.
So don't be pushy and don't pour your heart out...
Apple pie guy just wanted sex. Wasn't anything you did wrong.