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I might answer this question myself. Of course not all of them are gold diggers. I have seen one category of them working and or studying steadily, another category where they have relocated for work outside of Russia, another category where they drive cars like Mercedes, another category where they paid for the meal for both of them, another category where they marry the wrong Guys, another category where they married a low wage earner, another very major category where they ignore men or dont want any relationships and the list goes on and on. So this renders my question pretty much pointless.

However i keep getting told how these Russian girls sit back and do nothing in dating and expect us to do everything, invest in them even if they dont return anything, pay for them and the dating instructions in Russia go almost as closely as possible to invade their space, just short of r a p i n g them. I personally get gold digger vibes from that.

Some of them even told me (perhaps as a joke but i can't tell) about migrants from Europe or America coming to Russia and depart later away from there having married one of the Russian women so these women would gain citizenship or a green card and a ticket out of Russia, basically any legal type of permit into the country where those migrants came from and take her there too. This has happened before and its not so uncommon.

This scared me because i can not know whether its for the citizenship they are in for or the real deal. I almost never had a relationship with a Russian girl but right now i am on the safe side since i am not in Russia anymore. No need to dig for a citizenship and a passport where i am.

Came across this woman while looking at one of Kevin Samuel's video. Listed below was her comment for the video.

"I have a high value man and I just listen and do everything I can for him. He takes care of me and my daughters better than their father ever did. I am 37 and he helps me with everything so I will do all in my power to show my appreciation. I never called in to Kevin's show to ask any questions. I grew up with my man and him taking in me and my children was a blessing."

My initial thinking was this.

If you grew up with the man who is now your husband and knew him since childhood, why is it you ended up having kids with another man instead of just marrying this guy and having his biological children.

So I asked her this and her reply back to me was this.

"because I wasn't around him daily. We lived in two different cities that were close but still far enough to only see him summers at the Boys and Girls Club we attended. He wasn't the only guy in the city (lol). I also grew up with My Ex Husband (my daughters father). We're all the same age. I was able to spend more time with my daughters father because he was more assertive and went after me.

My husband now was a bit more shy and was also dating someone else. He wasn't my type He was just a nice friend. His relationship didn't work and my marriage ended. We remained friends and hung out on dates. He was always a gentlemen. One day we had too many drinks and now we've been married 7 years. He said he always knew I was supposed to be his wife. We still to this day are friends first."

Now let's say you were this guy in this exact situation with a 37 year old woman with a little girl that is not biologically yours. Your wife appreciates and loves you but you still have to see her ex-husband from time to time when he comes to visit the kids. Would you be ok being in a relationship like this?

I used to dismiss this idea but have increasingly come to realize its merit, and I now believe it explains a lot of the problems we see today in dating and gender relations, and why so many men no longer want to get married or commit. The changes we see in women today compared to the past, the risks to men of marriage, the fact it offers fewer benefits to men now, and the fact that casual sex is so easily available, all have conspired to create a situation where men are taking their gatekeeper responsibilities much more seriously than women are theirs.

Thoughts?

Dependent: You prefer to be supportive role for your man/woman, if you need money or emotional support you hopefully can relay on your romantic partner. You realistically ain't the most self sufficient person but you are definitely one of the sweetest people and you can give people emotional assistance especially for your partner.

Independent: You the kind of man/woman who doesn't enjoy relaying on others to give you a life. Instead of needing your partner to help with money issues you prefer to be the person who makes his/her own money. You are definitely really self sufficient and definitely more assertive compared to your partner. But despite being very focused on yourself you ain't exactly the most friendliest individual who technically wouldn't be the best when it comes to emotional support because your personality is way too dominant for any support roles.

So basically my question to any men and women out there if you wind up in a relationship but in the relationship you have to become one of these which type of lover are you? Are you the dominant alpha male/female who prefer to take up the leadership role and try to earn the bacon for your honey?

Or all you the type who wants to play as the submissive in the relationship be the gentleman/lady who would be willing to give emotional comfort and help your partner in being the follower in exchange you don't have to worry about making money because your partner is earning money for the both of y'all?