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In an effort to get me to do something, my wife said I needed to do it, because "frankly, there are some guys in the office that seem like they would be a lot of fun to fuck."

Naturally, she claims this was a joke and refuses to apologize for it. She says it wasn't meant to be taken seriously. And claims it's insulting I would react to it, because it implies something about her.

While I don't think she was actually threatening to sleep with her office mates, I didn't think it was funny either. In fact, it infuriated me. When she said it, of course my mind immediately pondered "Who the heck is she talking about?" / "Is there some truth to this joke?" / "Do I have to be worried about this now?" / etc. After all, something or someone cause the so-called joke popped in her head.

I thought it was disrespectful, in poor taste, and out of line. And I can't help but think had I done the same thing, I would have been absolutely raked over the coals for the rest of the week.

Yet, she's defiant that I'm overreacting and refuses to apologize.

So, am I overreacting? It's not that I can't handle the fact that my wife would find someone else attractive at work. I get that. I find women at my office attractive. But I would never ever think it appropriate to tell my wife, "You know, you should really pick up the kid today because the next firm outing is around the corner and, man, some of the women we just hired make me have second thoughts about our marriage."