How do you know when someone is losing interest?

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My boyfriend is a busy man but he has always found a way to text me morning and night for the first months we dated. (We don't live together) but lately he has been busy AND not texting me morning or night these past few months. But he did tell me he'll be less busy soon but nothing has changed. He did apologize yesterday for not being able to text me and is still afffectionate with me but today i got no message again for another day from him. I'm worried he's using his busy status as an excuse to not text me OR hang out with me because he lost interest but I'm not sure. I'll have to ask him. But I'm scared of his answer ngl. Should I give him space?

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Here are some signs that could indicate he may be losing interest:

- Lack of communication - If he's suddenly texting/calling you less often and being more brief in replies, that's not a good sign. Going from daily contact to stretching it out more is a red flag.

- Cancelling plans - If he starts bailing on dates you had planned or is vague about rescheduling, he may be pulling away.

- Less effort overall - Small gestures like sending good morning/night texts take little effort. If he's not doing those simple things anymore, he's probably losing motivation.

- Distant body language - Pay attention if he's acting more aloof physically. Less affection, eye contact and smiles can show waning interest.

However, don't jump to conclusions right away. His job may really be busy, so give him a little benefit of doubt still. But have an honest talk expressing your concerns and see how he responds. Pay attention to if his words match his actions going forward.

If things don't improve after talking or he gets defensive, then it's probably time to reconsider things. But communication is key so you know where you truly stand. Keep me posted on what happens!

GoodEnoughThen · Accepted Answer

Something is different and relationships do ebb and flow. It is time to have a talk to see where you both stand. There are things you can do to improve a relationship and get reconnected when you are feeling a disconnect. It's important that you say what you noticed (no more daily text) and what you need. If that conversation goes well and your partner accommodates your needs in a reasonable way then I think your relationship is still in good standing. If he doesn't and not much changes then I think you have your answer that he may be losing interest. A strong couple will be able to have these conversations in this will create more intimacy. Be strong, be an adult, have the conversation.

HollyK21 · Answer

I think you should stop being so afraid of losing a man that you lose yourself, I also think you should be more attached to your standards and boundaries than you are to him. For example, I think it’s bare minimum to send a morning and goodnight text IF that’s what he was already doing. You know you aren’t asking too much, it’s just lack of desire to be consistent on his end, not being too busy, since he’s shown you that’s not true.
I know the idea of him losing interest is hurtful, especially since you love him and your relationship, but if he’s allegedly too busy all of a sudden then just be done. Wish him well with his life and re-focus on yours.

Finchie40 · Answer

Does he go a day or 2 without texting you? If so then yes he is more than likely losing interest in you , when a guy really likes a girl he always puts time aside for her whether he is busy at work or not , so if he is going a day or 2 without texting you or calling you then that’s definitely a red flag

EmyyWolf · Answer

Yup he lost interest.  It’s over!  He basically broke up with you. I went through the same thing the last month. I just sent him a “bye message” and blocked him for good. There’s no rekindling that. Someone new is obviously on his mind. He is obviously interested in someone new. Someone is giving him better ass, better everything. Probably looks better too. 🤷🏻‍♀️ To him… someone has more value in his eyes than you do. I personally can’t tolerate ghosting. I will not tolerate it. I REFUSE to tolerate ghosting. He did it 3 times? He’s not texting you anymore? That’s it. He broke up.  ITS OVER!  He can Ghost and Ignore someone else 😂😂😂 wtf? I give them a 3-time rule. And then it’s over.

sage2021 · Answer

From my experience when you get that first ping in your stomach that something's different - you are right. Listen to your gut. He is on his way out, probably for some tush to chase. We said it the other day on here, all men cheat! It doesn't have to be intercourse but they will cheat.

About two or three weeks before it was over he stopped looking at me in the eye. I kept calling him out on it. I kept say "Why aren't you looking in my eyes anymore when we're talking"? And he tried to do it, but he just couldn't. Well, the joke is on the beach that he was cheating on me with because he up and died before their plans got underway. This is the only time it backfired on him instead of me. It feels really good that I don't have to hear his lies or see him sneaking around. Ha!

Fireguy17 · Answer

See if it improves over the next 2 weeks, if it doesn't you need to talk, not text to see what is going on.
While you might not like the answer at least you will know where you stand.
Which is better than being stuck in limbo.

RHK36 · Answer

Honestly sounds like a friends with benefits relationship and not a regular boyfriend/girlfriend situation. A guy who's into a girl doesn't act that way. Chances are he's already talking to another girl, planning to or already doing stuff with someone else. Move on to someone that actually wants to spend their time with you.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

If he’s talking to you on a schedule or goes most of the day without talking to you. You have your answer

lorenzomichael · Answer

When you're suddenly put on their pay you no mind list.

sheikalana · Answer

They feel distant and you start feeling that something's wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

When someone is not interested in you they will, always initiate contact, talk with you, ignore you

Lokiion · Answer

Body language and actions

DreamLife7 · Answer

He's not your boyfriend lol

Anonymous · Answer

He just got bored we are all like that

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It’s obvious

whistlingwh0res · Answer

He is self hater you are too.

Anonymous · Answer

What did you do to hurt him?

In_Trance · Answer

Ask them

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