Is he losing interest or am I thinking too much?

[ashxdly]

Why is it that my boyfriend's messages became really short nowadays? I say goodmorning, he says "hey", i say goodnight, he says "bye".. he also makes jokes about breaking up sometimes, i laugh at the ones he makes when he loses in a game for example cause i know he's just joking there but when we're talking about something serious about our future, he just says, "if we're still together by then".. He also started "hiding" his phone from me, like if i get too close to his phone he makes sure I'm not seeing what he's doing, I'm not someone who checks his phone but he never used to do this before so it worries me a bit.. When we go out he feels distant and he doesn't say he loves me anymore unless I say it first.. Another thing is that he managed to pass all his exams whilst I haven't, so I've been studying to retake the exam and he suddenly just made contact with old friends of his (all guys) and went out with them.. i dont mind him going out with friends but he used to tell me how these "friends" of his used to treat him badly.. why even go out with them? There are still those few times where he holds my hand or kisses me but theyve been getting rarer lately.. not sure what i should feel tbh

[SueShe]

Yes, he is losing interest and he is not shy to show you in disguised ways that his mind is elsewhere. What you describe are typical signs of a person that has something to hide because his change of behavior leads me to believe that he possibly has another girlfriend or that he is distancing himself from you because of reasons that only he knows.

If you suspect something, then best is to have a serious talk with him. Communication is what is missing in relations and the lack of mutual understanding is one of the major causes why relations fail nowadays.

You can ask him what is on his mind and what caused his change in behavior. You must not start accusing him but just explain that you would like to understand why his behavior is so different now. He will of course deny it but you must not give up and go to the bottom of the issue. Good luck.

[DiamondWalnut]

I agree with SueShe... assure him it's gonna be okay n talk things out with patience and clarity.

[young_OG96]

I don’t think you’re unreasonable in feeling that way, but I wouldn’t be quick to make a drastic decision, sometimes as men we go through these phases where we just distance ourselves and deal with things, we’ve been taught this from early, just distance yourself and work on what you need too. However in your instance it sounds to me like he’s confused, if a man wants to leave you he will no hesitation, so maybe he’s unsure on if he wants too or on how to do it so you don’t get hurt

[Anonymous]

It sure sounds like it.

[Iron_Man]

Sit down and have a serious conversation

[Tommy789]

Hard to tell

[In_Trance]

Thinking too much