I hung out with this girl and we actually had a girl great time. Talked for 2 hours straight, no awkward pauses, same energy and how we talk, and agreed to hanging out again. After the hangout I said I had a great time with her and hopefully we can hang out again. She said “Me too!! We should plan something again :)”. Next day she’s been acting weird and has been getting dryer and dryer and even said she can’t hang out next week bc she’s really busy. She told me her schedule when we hung out. She left me open and all I needed was closure. I texted that ik she doesn’t wanna talk but just wanna say I had a great time with her and me let’s connected with her in many ways but want to know if she saw anything in common between us. She then said “if I’m being honest, I just have a lot going on right now. I had lot of fun but I’m just not in the space/spot to pursue or continue anything” I apologized for stressing her out and if I ever made her feel uncomfortable and she said “no need to apologize, I had a lot of fun too, I’m just not in the spot to continue anythjng” we agreed to be friends and I thanked her for being honest and she said “of course :)” than left me open on snap. Haven’t talked to her for 3 weeks and I miss her. Been focused on myself and didn’t care anything about the girls I talk too, she also didn’t text me happy bday which I wasn’t expecting at all but just a sign I guess. It’s hard to tell if she’s lying or not but I do miss her. My friends told me she might come back but I know in reality she’s not and that’s the sad part
What does it mean when a girl says “ if I’m being honest, I had a lot of fun too, I’m just not in the spot/space to pursue or continue anything?
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Also want to say we have a lot in common and this is the first time I actually had fell in love with someone
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Also meant to say “me personally, I connected with you in many ways” for the typo ^
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Ah man, that really sucks dude. From the sounds of it, I think when she said "I'm just not in the spot/space to pursue or continue anything", it means she lost some interest after your hangout. A few things that makes me think that:
- Her texts getting dry and finding an excuse not to hang out again right after saying she had fun is a bad sign.
- Saying she's "not in the spot" to continue things is kind of a let down way of putting it.
- Not texting you on your bday makes it seem like she's moved on some.
It's brutal when something seems so cool after a date and then they change their mind. Obviously you really liked her, but I think she was just trying to let you down easy instead of ghosting. All you can do at this point is try to forget about her and move on bro. Focus on yourself and your friends for now. Don't wait around hoping she'll come back - probably best to just leave it in the past and meet someone new who will actually appreciate you.
For whatever reason, she was honest. Let it go and just have some self-respect. Don't pursue her. Don't text, call, etc. If she ever changes her mind in the future, she will have to contact you. Simple.