What does it mean when a girl says she's not looking for a relationship at the moment, even though I met her on a online dating site?

[BluePlanet1992]

i met this girl on a online dating site, we added each other on facebook and have a chatted for a while. When she said she was thinking of moving out of london I asked her out on a date which she said
Aww i;m sorry, i think you' seem nice but im not looking for anything at the moment, hence me deleting that pof account. Thanks though :)

I don't understand she is single, she seemed intrested me as after i complimented her about her youtube videos she started recording a lot more and always reply's to my messages. Why would she add me on facebook and continue to chat with me i'm so confused.

She also likes a facebook page called - I'm afraid of being happy because everytime I'm happy something bad always

Do you think she may like me but doesn't want to start nothing as she is maybe moving away from london, I really like her?

[Kaylove96]

I would think that it means she doesn't wanna date you like she found out more about you and decided that she's not interested in you. Us girls we tend to be indirect. Like if a guy makes it really obvious that he is interested in me, but I don't like him and I wanna avoid him, I tend to be quiet, feel weird and act different when they're around, and I be indirect. I've never been direct and told someone that I'm not interested and to leave me alone. And it's hard to in the moment even if I think about it.

[snowangle]

She decided not to pursue a relationship, so she deleted her dating profile. Makes sense. But you're confused because she friended you on facebook. Maybe she was interested in being friends.

[kaminalove]

Not down to date you. She let you down in an indirect way... Its okay dude try again 😊

[BluePlanet1992]

what with her? maybe I should try again a month or so?

[kaminalove]

No sorry she's not interested :/

[BluePlanet1992]

but you don't know that for sure I mean why would she spend so much time talking to me after meeting her on a dating site where she was looking for a relationship. Do you think that because she is thinking of moving that she may not want to be in a relationship?

[kaminalove]

Maybe she changed her mind? I think the moving thingy might have altered her decision

[BluePlanet1992]

So she might like me but doesn't want to go their yet until she has decided if she wants to stay in london?

[kaminalove]

I can't tell because it might not be the actual reason, I dont want to put your hopes up. Keep contact with her and see how it goes. stay friends for now

[BluePlanet1992]

Okay thanks, one more questions if a girl has just gone through a bad breakup can that affect her decision, as i saw he post on her timeline about how she found out her ex had lied to her.

[kaminalove]

Yes, she might want to take a bit off before going to date again

[BluePlanet1992]

okay i noticed this as she deleted a lot of photos as well of her with this guy who i guessed to be one of her ex's. So do you reckon i should remain to be her friend and over time she may change her mind?

[kaminalove]

Yes, thanks for sharing the details, it kind of changes whats happening
No matter what, don't push for a relationship, she'll walk away. Be patient and be there for her every step of the way 😄

[BluePlanet1992]

Okay thanks, When you say it kind of changes whats happening what do you mean?

[kaminalove]

Cuz with only ur inital information, its a complete friendzone but when you told me the details, I can see why she's a bit apprehensive

[BluePlanet1992]

So in your opinion you think she fancy's/likes but is not ready for a relationship due to being hurt and maybe moving?

[kaminalove]

Yes. It happens and she wants to settle too

[BluePlanet1992]

When you say it happens what do you mean? and when you say settle you mean she want's to feel settled in her area?

[kaminalove]

Its happens to plenty of people to be apprehensive after getting hurt

Yeah you said she wanted to move no?

[BluePlanet1992]

Oh okay do you reckon that is why she deleted her dating profile as well as maybe she is still hurt, but she still talks to me on facebook should i be their for her as a friend first?
She was thinking about it but she has more family and friends in London then the place she was thinking of moving too.
Do girls tell their family and friends when they have been asked out by a boy?

[kaminalove]

Yes be friends with her :)

Oh okay then, so she's jist scared of relationships.

Friends maybe, just one or two. Family is only when we are actually together

[BluePlanet1992]

She has been out with 3 boys in the past which she ain't friends with no more maybe your right she is scared, so just keep being friends with her which might show her i am a genuine nice and honest guy.
I mean their were signs she liked me as every time we talked she used to upload a youtube video of her signing after i had talked to her about it and since we have been talking she has been updating her profile pic a lot.

[kaminalove]

Good keep it going 😄

[BluePlanet1992]

So they are good signs?
I mean this was what she said to me - Aww i;m sorry, i think you' seem nice but im not looking for anything at the moment, hence me deleting that pof account. Thanks though :)
it's not a NO but it sounds more like not at the moment what do you think?

[kaminalove]

With what you said, yes. Stay friends with her because she did share a few things in her life.

Thabks for MHO😘

[BluePlanet1992]

When you say a few things you mean the youtube videos and what else? sorry i just want to get as much info as possible.
So she does like me and it's about waiting for when the time/situation is right?
and no worrys

[kaminalove]

Well she wants to settle down, she also a bit talked about her family and past relationships.

She enjoys talking to you :) so keep it casual.

[BluePlanet1992]

Oh no she didn't talk about them i just find that out by looking at her facebook profile, although she did talk about visiting her family, her dog and asked me questions about my weekend for example showing a bit of interest in me.
Okay will do so how long does it takes girls to get over ex's just curious?

[kaminalove]

Ooh so I can't tell for now.. Wow lol. But she likes talking to you for sure. I thought she told you, bit whatevs

Depends, how long was the relationship

[BluePlanet1992]

She has spoken to me a lot and she always reply's to my messages and did tell me personal stuff like she may be moving and where too which a girl wouldn't tell to just anyone?
. No but I guessed as i was looking through her profile and then just put two and two together.

I think maybe 3 months or less at a guess if that.

[kaminalove]

Oh okay, I can't really tell but her responding to you is a plus. Just dont push her.

Okay can take 1-2 months if no contact 3-4 if they see each other

[BluePlanet1992]

Oh okay thanks anyway, do you reckon the fact she was thinking of moving played a big part in her response to me asking her out?

Oh okay thanks

[kaminalove]

Yeah I do :)

you're very mucb welcomed hun :) message me if you still are worried

[BluePlanet1992]

okay thanks will do

[JohnBelluci]

"Aww i;m sorry, i think you' seem nice but im not looking for anything at the moment"

she rejected you big time. Chicks find all sorts of excuses to remain polite and gentle when they reject guys. If she liked you for real, she would find a way to make shit happen.

Move on.

[aficionado]

Since she was on a dating sites, it means she does want to date but not you. I'd say, just check her aside and find someone else.

[Tthorpe16]

Some girls are afraid to meet guys on a site, afraid of cat fishing. And POF isn't just a dating site, it is there to make friends too.

[BluePlanet1992]

but on her profile she stated she was looking for a relationship do you reckon it is because she may be moving soon and doesn't want to get emotionally attached to anyone?

[Tthorpe16]

I really can't say because we don't know what your conversation consist of. But I know that sometimes when I was single, I sometimes wanted a relationship but then changed my mind all of a sudden.. and if she hence before you started talking about her deleting the account then it wasn't you.

[BluePlanet1992]

What do you mean by it wasn't you?

[Tthorpe16]

She was probably deleting her account because she changed her mind and you didn't have anything to do with the relationship thing

[BluePlanet1992]

Oh so I may have a chance when she changes her mind about wanting be in a relationship?

[Tthorpe16]

Never know unless you take the chance.

[BluePlanet1992]

So how long should I leave it before asking her again?

[Tthorpe16]

Just take it day by day

[BluePlanet1992]

okay but if i keep talking to her like a friend it will show i wasn't just interested in her looks but as a person as well

[Tthorpe16]

It is better to start off as friends and build up.

[BluePlanet1992]

Okay thanks when you say build up how long does it usually take?

[Tthorpe16]

Depends on the relationship and the people. Took me and my boyfriend a month and a half. But it helps build the trust up too.

[BluePlanet1992]

Oh okay thanks any other suggestions on how I can build up the trust with her?

[NewUnicorn]

She doesn't want a relationship with you. Period 😊

[Klaatu51]

she just want u aas a friend at least?

[BluePlanet1992]

do you think that i might have a chance later on? I mean you eve

[BluePlanet1992]

even said their was loads of signs of her liking me

[Klaatu51]

yes... maybe LATER u might have a chance... so stay friends :)

[BluePlanet1992]

thanks, do you think the fact she is maybe thinking of moving might be why she doesn't want to become emotionally attached to anyone or get in a relationship?