Girls, does a woman ever mean it that they aren't looking for a relationship? Should I wait for the person to want one?

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A few days ago I confronted my crush and told her that I liked her. She told me that she doesn't feel that she's there. When I asked her what she doesn't like about her she said that she's not looking for a relationship. I know that usually when someone says that it just means they're not interested in you, but this girl that I like is someone who takes herself and her academics seriously, someone who's independent and enjoys time alone, and someone who has a small and close circle. Me on the other hand I am quite the opposite. I can see why she would say that and why she would see me as someone that wouldn't be serious about a relationship. I haven't spent the time to get to know her as I should because I have a lot of work going on and I'm the type of person who jumps in too fast.

My question is does this woman actually not want a relationship right now or does she just not want one with me. If she is just not looking for a relationship should I wait for her? If I do wait for her should I wait for her as a friend or just disappear? Should I grasp on to hope and start over from the basic and get to know her as a friend?

Girls, does a woman ever mean it that they aren't looking for a relationship? Should I wait for the person to want one?
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