I hung out with this girl and we actually had a girl great time. Talked for 2 hours straight, no awkward pauses, same energy and how we talk, and agreed to hanging out again. First time I fell in love with a girl. After the hangout I texted saying how I had a great time with her and hopefully we can hang out again. She said “Me too!! We should plan something again :)”. Thought I was secured. Next day she’s been acting weird throughout the days and has been getting dryer and dryer and even said “ I’m actually really busy next week so i don’t think next week will work out, I’m sorry”. She told me her schedule when we hung out. She than left me open a day later and all I needed was closure. I texted that ik she doesn’t wanna talk but just wanna say I had a great time with her and me personally I connected with her in many ways but want to know if she saw anything in common between us. She then said “ohhh no you are totally fine, if I’m being honest, I just have a lot going on right now. I had lot of fun but I’m just not in the space/spot to pursue or continue anything” I apologized to her if I stressed her out and if I ever made her feel uncomfortable and she said “no need to apologize, I had a lot of fun too, I’m just not in the spot to continue anything ” we agreed to be friends after and I thanked her for being honest and she said “of course :)” than she left me open on snap. Haven’t talked to her for 3 weeks and I miss her. Been focused on myself and didn’t care anything about the girls I talk too, she also didn’t text me happy bday which I wasn’t expecting at all but just a sign I guess. It’s hard to tell if she’s lying or not but I do miss her. My friends told me she might come back but I know in reality she’s not and that’s the sad part
Did she lost feeling when she says “if I’m being honest, I had a lot of fun too, I’m just not in the spot/space to continue/pursue anything”?
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It sounds like she might have lost some feelings man, unfortunately. A few things that make me think that:
- Her texts got drier and drier even right after your hangout when she was saying how much fun she had. That's a red flag.
- Coming up with an excuse about being too busy next week when you just hung out and she agreed to plans. Kinda lame excuse too.
- Saying she's "not in the spot/space" to pursue anything more. That makes it seem like she's lost some interest or spark after your date.
- Not texting you on your bday is another sign she probably isn't that into it now.
As much as it sucks, when a girl pulls away like that right after it sounds promising, she might have just changed her mind about how she felt. It happens sometimes even when you think things are going great. I know you really liked her, but at least she was honest with you about not being able to continue it instead of ghosting or stringing you along. All you can do is try to move on bro, as hard as that is. Focus on yourself for now and maybe someday down the line she'll come around again, but wouldn't bank on it. Her loss!
You honestly could be right man, she started off good when we were texting after the hangout then got weird but she still text the same tho even when it looks dry. She even checked out my dating profile the day after we hang out. As of rn, I don’t know who I should listen too, my friends or myself. My friends said the same thing you said but then they would change their mind and say that she might actually be busy and might come back but I highly doubt that. Even my best friend she is probably just trying to move on and forget about me bc she just has so much going on and that maybe one day when she’s ready she will come back. I don't know who to listen too, my mind tells me she will come back but I don’t want to think like that. I miss her and rn I don’t care about girls rn but myself and need to accept that she’s gone. I don’t really know her that well but god knows if she speaks the truth or not but what you said could be a possibility which is sad too.
Whats sad is that all my friends girls came back to them when things didn’t go well and it just makes me sad bc I wish mine came back to me. I told myself I’ll do anything to get mine back but for now I have to focus on myself and school
Honestly man, I feel you - it's always rough when things don't work out like you hoped after really clicking with someone. At the same time, you gotta decide not to get hung up on what your friends say either and just trust your gut.
I think the best thing now is like you said, focus on yourself and your goals for a bit. Work on being your best self so that down the road, whether it's with her or someone new, you'll be even more awesome. Plus keeping busy will help time pass and heal the hurt faster.
As for her, I know it's tough but try accepting it may not work out and move forward from there. If she does pop back up someday, great - but don't bet on it or build your hopes up. For now just keep living your life so you're not stuck waiting around.
Who knows what happens down the road man, but trusting yourself is key here. You got this! Stay positive and one day you'll find someone even better who can't get enough of you back. Keep your head up bro.
She seems to simply not have much interest in you, I doubt that being busy is the real reason.
What would you guess the reason? I actually did have a connection with her and she made me really happy too, just don’t know how she feels. It just hurts bc this is the first time I fell in love with someone and rn I just find the girls unattractive bc they don’t match her personality
She probably just didn’t feel the same connection that you did.