Her actions aren't mirroring her words, (or am I just trying to find something that isn't there)?

[Anonymous]

I have a girl "friend", that supposedly doesn't "like" me because she says she only goes after "bad" guys, typically and I'm what you'd call a "good guy". She's still being friends with me butttt, then like, the other day, and im not really sure if this is something here but, we were taking pics and in order to take one of them, she sort of needed to, how shall i say, "get closer" to me, if that makes any sense, and sorry for all the quotes, just trying to stress my point. She brushed up on me to do it, is what I'm talking about I guess.

Did she mean to do that, if she "doesn't like me because i'm a good guy"?

I mean, maybe I'm just looking for something that apparently she doesn't want

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She posted one of the pics of us

[Anonymous]

She’s dragging you along. If she knows you got a thing for her and she’s doing a lot of physical touching, then she’s playing with your feelings. I wouldn’t want to associate with someone like that :(

[Asker]

She's not really doing it

That's like the first case where she actually did it. and did it first too, I'm usually the one doing it, and doing it first

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe. Or she might’ve brushed up against you by accident.

[Asker]

Yeah, so how do i know which it is

[WhitneySnow]

Just based on that there’s no way to tell. Do you have any other evidence?

[Asker]

like?

[WhitneySnow]

Like anything else that might make you think she likes you. One isolated brush-up is not enough in my opinion.

[Asker]

Ehhh, well, that's the problem, what else, might imply she does

[WhitneySnow]

Cool. There’s a decent chance she does like you but it could be just an accident and she just likes you as a friend.

[WhitneySnow]

Wait for now. Don’t do anything. If she likes you she’ll send you more than one signal.

[Asker]

She often offers things, like she bought me dinner the other day

[Asker]

Remember, this is a girl who isn't working (though she did get a job recently, just hasn't started yet, she's been unemployment)

[WhitneySnow]

Hmm. Maybe. It is starting to sound more like she likes you. If you like her try confessing and see what happens. There’s a good chance she likes you back and even if she doesn’t it won’t ruin your friendship.

[Asker]

I'm not even sure if i do really like her. Maybe because I'm so confused, especially because of what she says and that MAYBE does

[Asker]

and then*

[WhitneySnow]

You need to decide if you like her first. If you don’t it doesn’t matter if she likes you.

[Asker]

My problem is im not very assertive, im always being too passive

[WhitneySnow]

She might be trying to signal you that she likes you

[Asker]

Yeah, so how would i know that

[Asker]

Again, she says one thing, but i feel like she's doing another. why would she say she doesn't go for "good guys", but then, supposedly do things that make it SEEM like she likes me

[WhitneySnow]

Because it’s very possible you’re just imagining she likes you. I mean sometimes I pay for food when me and my guy friend are hanging out and I don’t like him that way. It’s also possible you’re the exception to her usual rule of liking only bad boys. Or maybe she sees you as badder than you do.

[Asker]

Haha, what does "bad" imply anyway

[WhitneySnow]

Exactly!

Anyway, in my opinion there’s about a 50/50 chance she likes you. Think about whether you like her back. If you do, tell her how you feel and see what happens.

[Asker]

I don't know because I don't know if she likes me like that. A lot of her actions, don't mirror her words