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So I’ve been texting/video calling this guy for 6 months during lockdown. We’ve managed to see each other a few times after. We’ve kissed and made out one time.

Although we never really defined what we are, I think we’re kinda friends with benefits even though when we interact he doesn’t really treat me like a friends with benefits, he’s super caring and respectful and actually tells me stuff about his life. Plus doesn’t press me into sex at all.

He says he really loves my company and is impassioned by me; he also said once he couldn’t help but fall for me. But he’s very inconsistent and sometimes we can go from texting everyday to a week without texting and he leads a super busy life and all.

So here’s the deal,
It was my birthday at some point during lockdown and I told him a couple of days before and he said he would love to give me a hug and wished me a good day. But when the real day came he saw my stories about my birthday and said nothing!! 4 days later he texted me acknowledging my birthday by asking if I had a good day and saying he hadn’t been well cause someone he used to know died…but still…

His birthday is coming soon but we haven’t texted in a week. We’re suppose to hang out but he’s very busy. So I’m wondering whether I should text him happy birthday or reply to one of his stories and say “Is it your birthday? Hope you had a nice day x” OR whether I shouldn’t text anything at all? Oh and actually he never mentioned his birthday to me at any given point so I’m not so sure I should and I feel if I do I’m chasing after him a little.

Thing with this guy is I don’t want to get used to me always being there for him cause I won’t be! Sometimes I have a feeling he takes me for granted also I’ve added him to my close friends list on insta but for privacy motives.

And maybe if I don’t wish him happy birthday it might serve as a wake up call for him

So for the longest time (over a year) I've been trying to make something work with a guy.. in the beginning i wasn't ready and kind of lead him on.. there were just a lot of issues and arguments going on but we both still wanted to make it work.. when i was in a relationship he just wish i gave him a chance etc. When my ex and I broke up i messaged him and we tried to meet up and we talked on the phone and at one point he seemed upset.. anyways a few months go by and I message him and i called him to try one last time (I don't know why) and he was short with me.. told me he was on and off with this girl. One minute he says their talking and the next their not. 3 months later i find out he's engaged.

He was the same religion as me but was from a background where i believe they do arranged marriages. The girl is the same background as him (i believe) he always told me he didn't get along with his parents