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People cheat. Sometimes people cheat on good people for almost no reason. Most people will bend the internal morality of their actions around their wants and desires. People will swear on their grandmothers grave they’d never sleep with somebody after meeting them once, and then shock themselves by sleeping with THAT person when they eventually encounter them.

Love is essentially transactional, not just monetarily but emotionally and physically. Sometimes people just don’t want to be with you any more. Looks are a MASSIVE part of attraction. Comfort kills attraction. Your partner is not yours, it’s just your turn.(MOST relationships will end sooner or later). Most people believe they’re more righteous and principled than they are. Morality has nothing to do with arousal. Both genders are struggling to find fulfilling partners because one side has grown weak and one side is now free to select for what they want which is the best of the best. Certain immutable traits are key. Most relationships after a couple of years are routine and not sexually fulfilling. People are nowhere near as unique in their behaviour as they think they are.

Is everyone out there trying to use, break hearts and cheat? NO. Most human beings are very much looking and trying consciously to attain and build the perfect, unconditional, long lasting loving relationship. That’s their conscious motive. But life is life and it truly hits people harder and at weirder angles than they could possibly have anticipated. Good sweet innocent people surprise themselves. The righteous fall. Most are not as strong or as selfless as they think. Those who believe they deserve the world can only actually attain very little. There is no such THING as deserve, there is, isn’t, won’t, will and can and can’t.

To simply DENY all this stuff is a product of either lack of exposure or choosing to deny. Which is fine.

Over the years I’ve seen plenty of guys (myself included) gripe about women (especially western women). To a certain extent lots of our grievances are justified considering what feminism has done to western culture.

I have and always agreed with the premise of giving opportunities to women in traditionally male dominated spheres. But as feminism evolved (or should I say devolved) it now more often enables women to be their worst vs. be their best. Usually to the expense of men too but ultimately to the unhappiness and misery of women themselves

With all the said I fully believe there is a deeply engrained evolutionary reason why women tend to be much more selfish in dating.

There was a long time in history women had to use their sexuality to their advantage for both self-preservation and protection of their children. They had fewer opportunities then men and also aren’t as physically strong hence they had to make to with what they had to survive (e. g. manipulation vía sexual attraction). This also a reason why they cared much more about a man’s wealth and prominence. It would ensure her well being and increased survival.

Nowadays in western culture most if not all that bs female manipulation is no longer necessary. Women are not only given ample opportunity to make money but encouraged and supportive via college admissions and scholarship processes. Corporations often want to hire women over men to look “diverse”. The “wage gap” is a proven myth.

Despite the equal opportunities there a DNA instincts that still influence behavior to be more picky with men and to use their sexuality for their own one way benefits.

But we got to deal with this the same way you deal with a sociopath (not saying all women are sociopaths). A sociopath at default is incapable of feeling remorse, guilt, etc. Yelling at them won’t change anything. Instead you have to interact with them carefully. Same with how to deal with women. Love them but be very careful to trust them.