Im a bit confused with a guy’s behavior.
He knows I like him ( I told him I was interested in him ) but he never said he’s interested or not. Only thing he said is that it’s hard for him to love someone because of trust issues and many heartbreaks. how his life is messy right now, that’s why he’s been single for a long time. He later told me he thinks I’m brave for saying this.
this guy is flirty with everybody. But he was always extra flirty with me and showed me much more attention. He told me a few times he find me attractive and beautiful, touched me a lot, stared when I’m not looking , Said indirectly he’s single and tried to find if I was single too. And there was many non verbal, actions and words he did and said that showed attraction/ interest. That’s why it was so confusing.
After I admitted I liked him, He didn’t change. In contrary, he became more familiar, until I started seeing him less, because I was confused. But he became hot and cold with me ( he’s a BIG talker , and he would purposely avoid conversions with me only ).
what’s funny is that I always feel like he wants to tell me something when he’s quiet.
Also I recently, I lost my aunt. That day, i was at work, at 17:00 PM. I was emotional and he was there consoling me and cheering me up for about 15 minutes, instead of leaving work ( the guy lives far away from here ). He hugged me tenderly and asked me several times if I’ll be ok driving. I mean, other people didn’t even take the time to do this. He’s always been extra caring and nurturing with me. So im a bit confused with his behavior.
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He's thinks of you as a friend. What's the confusion?
Would you stare at a friend when they’re not looking? Tell them you find them attractive/ beautiful? Look at them deeply in their eyes? Winking at them frequently when you leave or greet them ? Look at their body? Asking them if their single indirectly and saying you’re single? Touch them ( on their lower back ) and be extra courteous with them?
I have guy friends, and I don’t do that. I flirt innocently. I would say things like « looking good Bryan ! » but I’m not going to tell them I find them attractive , or wink at them, and all the other stuff I mentioned. He’s also flirty with everybody, but at a certain extent.
That’s why I’m confused.
That's all great, but are either misreading/projecting his actions, or he must enjoy the ego stroke. If you told him verbally that you like him and he didn't answer... that tells you all you need to know. So you said verbatim "I like you"? Are you sure he isn't married or in a relationship?
*you are either
Hi Spartan55,
I didn’t say « i like you » . What happened is that I asked him if he was single. And this is when he started telling me how is life is very messy and he’s incapable of love. Right away he asked me if I’m interested and I admitted I was, but that I felt disappointed ( because of what he told me ). After that, there was a silence… he seemed surprised. And he replied « but I do find you attractive » .
What was really confusing is after that day. I don’t know if it’s because he felt bad or he liked the fact that he knows a young woman likes him , but he gave me even more attention and care. He was still flirty and even more touchy feely. He wasn’t uncomfortable or weird AT ALL. He even asked me « so… you like older men, eh? » and winked ( he was red ). The winking… I mean he doesn’t do that to other women or men ( I know, trust me ). All this was confusing and that why I got a bit distant, but I still wanted to interact with him when I could and be nice toward him. Only thing, he started becoming hot and cold. It always felt like he wanted to say something but he kept quiet.
Until a few days ago, when I lost my aunt. He was the only one who was kind enough to stay cheer me up, instead of just going home. He even… winked Again before leaving ( weird , I know ! ).
The relationship part , honestly I don’t know.
He said he wasn’t in a relationship. He seems single to me. I’ve never heard his friends asking about his girlfriend or him talking about a girlfriend. He’s always making plans alone.
And I may be misreading his behaviour, but it was very obvious. So obvious that my colleagues thought there was something going on.
I would move on.
He might like you but doesn't know exactly what he wants.