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I would suggest that it is. Years ago, Before i met my wife, I believe i was 26 at the time, was in love with a woman who i wanted to marry, We had been together for two years at the time. We had talked repeatedly about spending our lives together and getting married, even having children. So I set up a romantic outing with all of her favorite things, Got down on my knee and proposed to her. She turned me down. I got up, I said nothing, I walked away. Leaving her where she was. I think she had to walk home. She was pissed at me, She called me, and i politely explained to her that i was done with her, that if she didn't want marriage, i was not going to waste my time with her any more. I told her that she was essentially dead to me, and that her stuff would be in a box on my front porch (she lived with me about 50% of the time). As of now, i am 41 and she is 38. She is still single, No children, No family, Alone. From what her friends told me about her situation, she also attempted suicide a few times and spent time in and out of the hospital. This is the life she condemned her self to. I have ZERO sympathy for her.

My opinion is this, If the man proposes, does everything right, makes an effort, And she says no, Any further association is a waste of time, and she becomes unworthy of marriage.

For me it’s obvious; I’ve got one life. I would never settle. It really is both components. I know if I’m physically attracted to a girl at first glance, no personality overcomes a lack of physical attraction at all. Just as no amount of beauty overcomes crappy personality. Both are just as necessary. (Mind you everyone finds different types attractive so I don’t believe in leagues).

With a significant other there’s no in between for me, it’s enthusiastic yes or no thank you. I’m polite with giving and receiving rejection but I am resolute here. I just don’t understand people who don’t soneone because they don’t want to be alone. I’m scared of being alone sure-but settling scares me much more and I’m sure most healthy people would feel similar. Otherwise you’re dating just to have someone rather actually having a desire for a person.