Does he want to be only left alone temporarily or does he want to cut contact all together?

[Anonymous]

I (19f) have been talking to a guy (21M) I met on a dating app for almost three months. We texted almost every day, joking around and sharing some personal things. We also live in different countries and have only been messaging. I'm just worried if he wants to cut communication.

Four days ago, he asked for space to recharge. I respected that, but when I checked in a couple of days later, he said he needed more time. So, I told him I’d wait for him to reach out first. Now, I’m unsure if I’m overthinking due to insecurity or if he actually wants to cut contact.

He’s not particularly busy this week mostly playing video games, which I don’t mind, but I do worry he plays too much (6+ hrs a day avg.), but I don't mind since he is in Uni, and I am glad he has downtime to relax. He also said he’d try to play a game with me this weekend, but that hasn’t happened.

I feel a little hurt by his absence and don’t know if this is just a temporary break or if he’s pulling away for good. Any honest input would help good or bad.

TL;DR: Been talking to a guy for almost three months. He asked for space four days ago and hasn’t really talked to me since. Not sure if I’m overthinking or if he’s losing interest.

[ohsheeT]

I think in a roundabout way you answered your own question and I feel bad about your question because I can feel you and I can feel that you really care for this guy but I'm afraid that his video games are more important to him than you I don't think this is the part that you have to worry about I mean you do and you don't


I think that he would rather play his game then chat with you and have a conversation or even romance with you and that really sucks because that means he's very addicted

I kind of feel that this is what's going to happen he says he wants his space and he'll let it few days maybe a week go by but if he likes you anything at all he's going to come back and try to make amends with you but whether it's a day two days a week a month 2 months would you actually get back with him because he's choosing a game over you he's choosing his addiction over you that's just because I say this and I think this doesn't mean that I'm right but I'm pretty sure that I am


And this is the part that I don't like about it is that so he's putting you through something right now and like I said whether it's a day two days a week a month you know whatever one day you will come back or try to come back maybe and act as if nothing happened...

So that means you have to make choices and you have to live through it again that's the part that really sucks.

Now there's only one way to find out if I would be right and that is if his game console is to break or not work tomorrow all day maybe two days maybe 3 days then he would be getting back a hold of you and that will tell you everything but that's not going to happen probably I just feel bad for you it's like I said I can feel it in your words I can hear your words and how much you like the guy..

I just went through a long distance relationship ending. And it totally sucks because of the distance like with you she's in another country and it's been over 2 years maybe and it's been fun it's been great but she wants to have sex he wants to make love and I don't blame her I wanted to at 15 and a half and I did so I can't hold her back from that and I can't really go see her... So I mean I understand the whole deal but still going to sucks and that would come up sometime with you guys too I mean I would love to go see her but at this moment I can't...

Well like I said just because I think it doesn't mean it's going to happen that way that I'm pretty sure that I'm right and I don't want to be

[Nikki1989]

If he is a typical man, he probably has someone else. You are most likely being played.

[strateguy632]

He wants a break but say ultimatum. Don't wait for him.