Search Results: am i a loser

I (30m) was a direct support professional most of my 20s. Basically I worked in group homes caring for and teaching lifeskills to intellectually disabled individuals. I went to college and got a degree in psychology and took a supervisor position. I worked that for around 9 to 10 months and realized it wasn't for me and the amount of work involved was insane for someone like myself who wanted to have a wife and kids and actually spend time with my family. Anyway, I decided to quit the supervisor position and find the highest paying direct support professional job there was in my area. I have a lot of experience so I was able to use that as leverage. Now, it is starting to feel like I am going to be stuck doing this forever and eventually my wife is going to think less of me for not aspiring to become the boss. There are people my age that are so high up in these companies they are in the position directly below the ceo and that does not feel good. If this career isn't for me in that respect, does that make me a loser. Also if have any ideas on what I can do next shoot them off.

I am a single guy. I am 29, have no dependants, and I have a well-paying job. I own a class A motohome that was manufactured in 2009, so it is older by now and showing some age.

I am not really wanting to rent an apartment right now, because I would be pissing away $1500 a month on a place that I will never own. Imagine spending hundreds of thousands of dollars overtime on a place and suddenly lose your job or become disabled and you get evicted. That would be horrible.

My second option is to save up and put money down on a house or condo. Although, I would be signing my life away to $200+/k in debt for decades of my life.

I really don't know what I want to do long term, because I am likely to remain single the rest of my life and everything will rest upon my shoulders solely financially. I never even had a real girlfriend, so I know what direction my singleness is taking me.