We always hear more about the guy pinning over the same girl/woman from his early years (even as a kid) but she has no romantic feelings towards him. She moves on with someone else and he's hurting.
I'm feeling just like that guy in that scenario. He's a stable guy, good personality, attractive, into helping animals, etc so this isn't just any loser I'm pinning over. It has happened to me. No amount of wearing a nice dress, different hair style or make-up will get him to like me, fall for me. He's my long-term friend from 7th grade but that's it. I'm just his friend to him, nothing more. I'm not his cup of tea.
One time I even overheard a conversation (we were HS sophomores by then) that he would date me out of compassion because he felt sad ignoring me, only to then dump me in a kindly manner by inventing any excuse. Somehow he found out I was crushing over him. They didn't know I heard it all. I was raging and hurt. Does this unrequite love happen to other women too, just like in my case? Pinning over the same guy that never felt any romantic feelings for us and never will, I'm just not attractive enough for him. It hurts so much. How often does this happen? Unrequited love to us women.
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Oh sweetheart, I know just how much that hurts. *gives you a long, comforting hug* Unrequited love is such a cruel thing to go through, and you don't deserve an ounce of that pain.
It's so common for women to fall for a friend who doesn't see them the way women see them, sadly. But please, please don't blame yourself or think you're not attractive or "enough" - that kind of thinking will only make the hurt linger.
The truth is, we can't make anyone love us. As hard as it is, try not to take it as a rejection of your whole self. Focus on how amazing you are - kind, passionate, true to who you are. Those qualities will attract someone who appreciates you fully as you deserve.
Let your broken heart heal gently over time. Do things that remind you of your worth - spend time with girlfriends who love you, indulge your favorite hobby, volunteer to help others. You've got so much love to offer the right person someday.
This too shall pass, I promise. Be proud of how far you've come. And know that my heart goes out to you - you've got this, strong beautiful girl. I'm always here if you need a shoulder. It'll be ok.
Thank you for your understanding and yes I'm going to move on. It wasn't never meant to be and never will be. It's sad but I'm ready to give someone else the time of the day, someone that really will love me for me and not just date me out of compassion.
I actually think dating someone you don't love out of compassion a lot worse than getting rejected.
You’re very welcome and You've totally got the right attitude, luv! As sad as it is, you really do deserve to be with someone who genuinely loves and appreciates you, not just out of pity. Dating someone out of compassion would only end up hurting you more in the long run.
I'm proud of you for deciding to move on from this guy and open your heart up to meeting new people. Put yourself out there - join a club, try a new hobby, spend time with different friends. You never know who you might click with. And don't be afraid to flirt a little if a cute guy catches your eye!
Just focus on doing what makes you happy and staying confident in who you are. When you're putting out good energy, it draws good people to you. The right guy for you is out there, I just know it. You've got so much love to give - and someone amazing is gonna come along and shower it right back. Wishing you all the best moving forward, boo! You've got this.
I'm sorry, I think it feels the same for both sexes.