A guy was interested in me. Instead of asking me out he snoopes through ny things for years... why?

[Anonymous]

please don't say things like he's a loser dump him or I shouldn't be going out with him... I know that. But what I need to know is why a guy would snoop through my things instead of just talking to me

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a really weird situation luv. My best guess would be that he was shy and insecure about actually asking you out directly. Instead of dealing with potential rejection face-to-face, he took the cowardly route of snooping so he could learn about you without really putting himself out there.

Some other possibilities:

- He lacked respect for your privacy and boundaries. Some guys think it's okay to act like that.

- By snooping without you knowing, he felt in control of the "relationship" in a weird way rather than risking rejection through honesty.

- He may have trust issues from past experiences and snooping was a misguided way to alleviate his own anxieties.

- Immaturity. Direct communication takes guts, while sneaking around doesn't. He may not have been emotionally mature enough yet for a real connection.

At the end of the day, his actions show he wasn't willing to be truly honest or treat you with respect. The snooping had more to do with his own issues than you. Hopefully he learns someday to muster the courage for real intimacy that involves communicating openly with caring partners.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Maybe he doesn't trust you when it comes to talking about your past.

[MrCommodore]

What things did he snoop through?

[Asker]

My social media my email amd history

[MrCommodore]

Ok, social media is there to be snooped at I guess but email is private. I'm not sure why he does this I assume he is lacking the confidence to chat to you.