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Last night I got an email from a guy who I used to sleep with. It was strictly a friends with benefits relationship, but low and behold I fell head over heels for him. I told him; because I felt I was being unfair to him by being dishonest. He said he wasn't in it for a relationship and we left it at that. We did continue to sleep together over the course of 7 years, though it was not often.

He was deployed in the Navy for 4 years and during that time we spoke everyday (except when he was on deck of course) but we never saw each other. However, when he returned, we got back into seeing each other. It was only once. He picked me up. We talked a lot. I ended up initiating sex. Before this point he would often ask me how I felt about him and I would tell him. I was always open about the depth of my feelings for him and he liked that, though he never would tell me if he felt the same. This last time we hooked up it brought back the slew of feelings I had for him ten fold. And after bringing it up in conversation one more time and him denying any sort of feelings to have a relationship with me, I decided it was in my best interest to move on.

He was drunk last night and emailed me after we haven't spoke in a few months. He was very open, which isn't normally how he reacts. I asked him if he had a new girl yet and he said "No, you are taken" but would not elaborate on what he had meant. He told me I was hands down the most amazing women he has ever had the chance of meeting and also told me he was sorry that he never gave me what I deserved ("which is perfection"). I then told him that he deserved better than me. He replied "I love you though". He's never told me anything about how he felt before. Could this confession be caused by the amount of alcohol he consumed and him being lonely OR do you think he was being truthful?

So I am 21 and for a considerable amount of time, I have obsessed over the idea that I have never been in a relationship. Although, I have felt this way since I was 17. And I am told that I am pretty, from both sexes. I am a decent individual and it kind of bothers me to know that one of my friends from highschool will be getting married soon. I have been asked out in the past but every guy that has ever given me attention did not appeal to me and I want someone I will connect with emotionally and physically. Is this a cliche statement? Like what is wrong with me or these guys? Plus I have no friends, which does not help the situation. But, I attend college and all these guys never given me a second glance, the only ones that do are usually players or the type of guy you would avoid. Am I doomed to be alone or something? It really is not fair. I know there is nothing wrong with me but apparently to guys there are.