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The Pros and Cons of Accepting a Girl's "Challenge"

Ah, The Challenge. When you meet one of those old school girls that makes you "wait" not only for sex, but to date her, to be in a relationship with her, to meet her friends etc. She provides in as simple terms as possible a choice--either do or don't accept the challenge. It is as uncompromising as it is elegantly straightforward. Let's examine whether we, as men should ever endeavor such a challenge or whether we should move onto a woman who already wants to move forward with us...


The Challenge:


Forces you to notice other than physical qualities about her. Inevitably, your mind gets used to her image and it no longer is novel, and so with that time you've decided to invest her you've come to see her personality simply because you've been around her so much. It's amazing the little you know about a girl you've been naked with and the huge amount you know about another girl who's bra strap hasn't even been revealed yet.


The Pros and Cons of Accepting a Girl's



But you could walk away with nothing hypothetically. I mean relationships don't work out more than they do workout and if she makes you wait a long time you could break up before you ever get to love or sex or trust--whatever it is you were after when you embarked on the challenge...



You get that feeling that the love of your life was earned. This is a great feeling and while it may seem not in the spirit of romance, feeling you've earned something has the interesting effect of telling your mind that it was worth it and worth something. She's special not because she is different from other girls, but because you chose to fight for her...


The Pros and Cons of Accepting a Girl's "Challenge"


But sexual frustration can lead to emotional frustration and fights that seem to be about hurt feelings are really about unfulfilled libidos and desires for physical bonding. The taunt of sex is always there...lingering....


The Pros and Cons of Accepting a Girl's "Challenge"


Sexual attraction is immediate, but romantic attraction is gradual and so real love can only happen over time. You have to develop it and let a seed that given sunlight becomes a rose. Everyday becoming more vibrant than the last.


But there is the potential for others to come in between you. . .


The Pros and Cons of Accepting a Girl's "Challenge"

The Pros and Cons of Accepting a Girl's "Challenge"
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