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I’ve noticed a few posts occasionally (almost always women) who think people being antagonistic to them on GAG is somehow “real bullying”.

I know what real bullying is because I experienced it viciously in my childhood. I was the youngest in my class, physically weak, part red head and I had undiagnosed severe ADHD.

But getting butthurt over a complete anonymous person who is absolutely no real life threat to you whatsoever is pathetic. Not saying I like trolls or trolling. I am usually considerate. But I’ve had plenty of people on here say nasty things to be over the years

But I’m not losing sleep over it. Who gives a shit. They don’t know my real identity or where I live. I’m not stupid enough to post real photos of myself on here either. Never done that. I just block them out if they really are a troll. And I don’t consider somebody who just disagrees with me or tells me what I don’t want to hear “a troll”. Real trolls are easy to spot. Easily to block. They just usually spout off some useless nonsense.

But I notice it’s usually (but not always) women on here who act pathetically oversensitive. Especially if it’s about body shapes or political issues.

If you don’t like what people say you can block or leave. But say “words are violence“ is beyond pathetic. And this is coming someone who got bullied daily back back when I was in grade/middle school.

I know what a real bully is and they aren’t trolls and especially not just people who tell you what you don’t want to hear.

A lot of people don’t believe in Karma. I myself have gotten more doubtful over years. There is a zero sum aspect to this world that is unfortunately true. Sometimes you have to step on heads to get ahead. You may or may not have a conscience. If you do have one maybe you have to contend with a guilty conscience. But that seems like a minor price to pay for a lot people given the benefits they can get for their actions.

Anyway I notice people who burn the other gender often make bs excuses for actions because they themselves have been burned in the past. It’s a bullshit excuse because the reality you have with is with that one person and it’s just between you and them. You are not “getting back” at the man or woman who burned you by mistreating an unrelated man or woman. You are not getting your “revenge” You are just harming a person who doesn’t deserve it.

I often blame women for this adolescent behavior. But when I’m brutally honest with myself I confess there have been a few isolated incidents I have done this in my own life. It was particularly during my man whore phase in my late 20s/early 30s. I was never a liar. But I would play dumb with women who I knew wanted a relationship when I just wanted to get laid. I felt some mild guilt about it and but I buried that by remembering how many women burned me for being a “nice” guy in my early 20s. I figured it was “my turn” to enjoy the one way benefits.

But that was wrong. Bottom line is this is really just contributing to a “dog eat dog” shitty cycle that’s making things worse and worse for men and women. We look at scoring one for “our team”. In reality when you screw over someone else in dating they might screw over someone else at some point. There is more distrust. More hate. More selfishness. More toxic femininity. More toxic masculinity.

But Mother Nature meant to bound men and women together for companionship and reproduction. It’s NOT a “my team vs. your team”. It’s supposed to be two halves to a whole.