Do people really believe “cyber bullying” from strangers on a site like this (who don’t know your identity) is the equivalent to real life bullying?

[Anonymous]

I’ve noticed a few posts occasionally (almost always women) who think people being antagonistic to them on GAG is somehow “real bullying”.

I know what real bullying is because I experienced it viciously in my childhood. I was the youngest in my class, physically weak, part red head and I had undiagnosed severe ADHD.

But getting butthurt over a complete anonymous person who is absolutely no real life threat to you whatsoever is pathetic. Not saying I like trolls or trolling. I am usually considerate. But I’ve had plenty of people on here say nasty things to be over the years

But I’m not losing sleep over it. Who gives a shit. They don’t know my real identity or where I live. I’m not stupid enough to post real photos of myself on here either. Never done that. I just block them out if they really are a troll. And I don’t consider somebody who just disagrees with me or tells me what I don’t want to hear “a troll”. Real trolls are easy to spot. Easily to block. They just usually spout off some useless nonsense.

But I notice it’s usually (but not always) women on here who act pathetically oversensitive. Especially if it’s about body shapes or political issues.

If you don’t like what people say you can block or leave. But say “words are violence“ is beyond pathetic. And this is coming someone who got bullied daily back back when I was in grade/middle school.

I know what a real bully is and they aren’t trolls and especially not just people who tell you what you don’t want to hear.

No

Yes

Updates

8 mo

After looking at the poll numbers and reading one particular commenter’s response on this I actually do own up to one thing: my original viewpoint was sexist.

There are more male crybabies who are scared of “cyber bullying” than I expected so far. Sorry ladies for my earlier presumption.

Updates

8 mo

Geez I really stand corrected about my earlier assumption about how women feel on this vs. men. Shocked that a higher % of women voted NO then men. It’s a small sample set (just 17 poll votes) but still I am surprised.

I am just used to women calling men online “bullies” just because a guy tells them something they don’t want to hear. They usually are more quick to block.

[Imsmurter1]

Cyber bullying is real bullying but I agree with you that someone who doesn’t know who you are saying one mean thing doesn’t count as bullying. They have to know something about you to count as bullying and if you’re sensitive about what one random nobody said online who doesn’t know who you are then you’re probably spending too much time online

[Asker]

Plus these people probably never had to deal with REAL bullies before. At least not to the extent many of us have.

I’m not saying it’s okay to be a dbag. Of course it isn’t. I’ve had some people say some horrible things to me on here (especially when I share info about a sensitive topic). But all I do is troll block, block them or in some cases delete the entire question. I maybe get pissed off for maybe 10 mins. That’s it.

But people acting like their literally existence is “threatened” when they encounter a troll or two is beyond pathetic.

[Asker]

*troll back

[Imsmurter1]

Yeah it’s relatively ok on here. But I’ve encountered bullying online before but with other websites and so I think it happens online sometimes but rarer here

[Asker]

Well if it’s on social media where you know each others true identity that’s different. But a figured out years ago (still a few years too late but anyway) that you have to be very careful what you post on social media. Who you engage in.

But here is different. My real thoughts and feelings come out and they are not always nice. However that doesn’t mean I enjoy antagonizing people (true bullies do) but this is no place to give people “feel good” lies either. To some people the truth is “bullying” even when they asked for honest feedback. Big girls are a perfect example of this.

[Imsmurter1]

thanks for mho

[Bricealan]

Never understood the 'cyber bullying' idea. Go to another site, ignore them, report them, WTF? The bullying BS is over the top. My opinion only.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t believe so, but the constant judging, being told lots of negative things, while that must be a place where you must feel free to be yourself - That can get tiresome and annoying at some point, make you want to get away from all these bitter people and don’t give them the joy to anyhow even tiny bit bring their negativity to you.

[LazerBean]

I'm sure a lot of people do. Seems like most people want to be a victim these days.

[jshm2]

Don't be such a dipshit gatekeeper, sunny.

Bullying is not "the same" for everyone, and everyone has different experiences of it, online and offline.

Everyone is a terrorist to someone, and there are people who will feel you are the bully and terrorist to them. But only a court of law can make the claim for definite.

So don't be a dullard in your claims of "real bully" as you are not self aware enough to be making such assertions.

[Asker]

@jshm2 oh no. You called me dipshit and now I’m just going to automatically reverse all my opinions because you don’t like it. Oh no. Oh no. Lol.

Your Marxist outlook is making me laugh so hard my stomach hurts. Seriously. A 45 year old man who actually believes that above and supports subjective censorship.. Absolutely insane.

But I’m actually glad you commented with that. You are indicative of exactly what I’m talking about. Proves that people like you actually exist.

[inhua]

what they believe to be "cyber-bullying" to them is tame compared to the shit I deal with here

[Asker]

I’ve had people particularly women say very nasty things on here. But again I’m not losing sleep over it. Who cares.

[inhua]

men speaking facts is considered offensive

meanwhile women are slandering men as creeps, predators, sexists, incels, misogynists, abusers oppressors, cowards, losers, bigots etc.

[Asker]

Bingo

[Asker]

Men (generally) do a better job at compartmentalizing and criticizing certain actions/behaviors someone does before spewing out blanket insults and labels.

But there is a rise of crybaby men out there. Read the other comments on here and there is one in particular who is shining example. 45 year old man too. Not a some college kid but a grown ass man. Beyond pathetic if he really thinks this way.

[findacure4wokeness]

Yes some people do, Not me though, CYBER BULLY!!! It's the war cry of a career victim who has just had their weak augments callout.

[LiamJHayden]

Different people will have different measures of what is bullying to them. For example, a teen girl is likely to have a much lower threshold than a combat veteran.

[Asker]

I get that. But when certain people think they can dish it out but can’t take it that’s when I really have an issue.

But still feeling “traumatized” for what an anonymous person said to you online (when they don’t know your real identity) is ridiculous.