Do you resist temptation for your partner?

[Finchie40]

I know most people will say yes they do because most people have a hard time to admit they are actually wrong , So truly ask yourself this question? Almost every relationship I have been in I was faced with temptation from another girl and I know Girls’ are usually faced with other Guy’s trying to get with them as well , So what stops you from resisting temptation for your partner if you are in a committed relationship with someone? I am going to be honest , when I was younger and entering into the dating world , when I met a girl that blew me away , and she was everything I could ask for, cheating on her wasn’t even a thought , I became blind to all other girls’ that were flirting with me and I easily stayed loyal to my girlfriend , hoping she was staying loyal to me as well , but sadly she didn’t , so she became my ex , after getting over her , I met other girls’ and sadly it was hard for me to trust them let alone trust myself , now that I am faced with cheating , and thinking what is the point of actually getting into a relationship with someone if they aren’t truly going to resist temptations for me , so sadly I became a man whore myself and was just living my life single and free , hooking up with girls for fun and not caring about whether she was going to stay loyal to me or not , after sometime I realized how wrong it was for me to do to fuck with girls’ hearts , I felt like a POS so I decided to give my heart completely again to a girl that gave me hers. When I met my ex wife I thought her and I would be together forever , I devoted myself to her and removed every temptation for her by being completely honest with her that I did not want anyone else but her, we were married for 15 years and made 3 beautiful children together , Thinking I met my soulmate until she decided to have an affair with a co worker. So how do you honestly resist temptation for someone? When I constantly meet girls that are lying that they are single when they aren’t.

[Anonymous]

I don't know how far I'm eligible for answering your question as I'm very very young and not much dating experience. I belong to Indian traditional family where dating etc are not so common thing (but still people do without in knowledge of their parents in small towns, but in cities it's normal like in other world ) maybe that also may put me on back steat or may reduce the value of my opinion still i want to keep my point of view here as i felt it's interesting question.

I have never dated any guy upto age of 26. Yes temptation was there and ofcourse it was very very strong one for me always but in my mind always was there that I'm not going to waste my time and energy behind anyone just to take test drive kind. If I would be in relationship it would be for final for marriage and if marriage is impossible between us I won't go for it.

And if we both really love each other then we could also convince our parents as they are not our enemy we will take our stand and will be firm.

And about the question that what if compatibility won't suit us, I believed that all persons are different so we just should accept them as they are, and as long as love is there respect is their it will work out suruly ofcourse with some bumps here and there but is normal in all relationship.

And I have always said NO to toxicity or disrespect. No matter how much he loves me (or i assume so) if he is toxic or disrespectful he doesn't deserve me i kept it clear.

This is how i had been single for 26 years and finally got a very loving guy with whom I'm now in relationship.

(Somewhere on my similar comment someone replied like don't listen these religious etc something... I don't mind. But my decision was not based on religion or etc just this is what i felt right. This was MY OWN choice based on my own logic and understanding)

[RoseySaraah]

Yes often I do but the point you need is!

Take time and heal!

One night stands make it worse take time be single and heal... You will know when your ready for a real relationship again.

There has to be trust and you have to take time trusting a new girlfriend!

Also meeting the right person is so hard don't be down on yourself for living and wanting.

[Finchie40]

I still date , I just don’t rush into anything serious anymore until I feel her and I are on the same page with things , I am pretty straight forward and honest as can be and will tell her what I am seeking on a relationship and pretty much lay the cards out on the table for her to decide if she wants to continue dating me or not , Most girls’ that I have dated recently , said yes they were seeking the same but then I find out she is already seeing someone else or married to someone else after we had sex , so my luck has t been the greatest

[LucynRiley1987]

There is no temptation when you truly love someone and both are getting their needs met. When needs are not met thats when temptation even becomes a thing. So make sure to meet your partners needs and do emotional security check ins with your girl and be direct about your needs with her so that she can meet yours. Never let resentment build, always make open and honest communication priority.

[Finchie40]

Cheating is my final straw for any relationship, but sadly some people lie and tell you they didn’t cheat on you because they realize it was a mistake and wrong to do so they keep it a secret and that’s all fine and dandy if you want to live your life with someone that you truly don’t love because you been lying to them the whole time , because most people in general are selfish and only do what is best for them but if you want to continue in a relationship with someone you truly don’t love and value and live with the guilt of you being a POS , then so be it , I feel sorry that you are keeping that secret hidden from me to appease me cuz you don’t know whether it was a mistake or not and you are scared of losing me , the truth is you already lost yourself , by lying about your actions , by you taking it to the grave , if that’s how you want to live out the rest of
Your life. Then so be it but what most people don’t realize holding onto guilt and lies will never make you a happy person , because the truth is you are fake. I am no saint what so ever , I have made mistakes and there were times I didn’t resist temptation when a beautiful girl came on to me that I thought was Hot AF , until I realized I was being a hypocrite and all my relationships were failing or falling apart , I honestly had to learn to resist temptation and remove selfishness in myself before I could open up my heart again to someone else , sadly it wasn’t an easy rode after I have been cheated on , why I no longer jump into a relationship with a girl because most people don’t really know what they want , so the only thing I ask of a girl when we are consistently dating and before we choose to commit , is to just be honest with me and herself , Honesty is the best thing to live with because honesty gains respect , If a girl is completely unhappy with me and no longer wants to stand by my side , be honest about it , and let’s go our separate ways. Sadly most people hold on to secrets and

[Finchie40]

Then they wonder why they aren’t happy with themselves and they wonder why nobody is happy to be with them period. Learning to be honest with yourself makes it easier for someone to be honest with you , Stop worrying about someone else’s actions all we
Can do is worry about our own actions. Most people don’t grasp that concept about removing selfishness for each other and resisting temptations for each other , we are always faced with selfishness and temptations , when you learn to remove that you will find true love

[iseekpinetrees]

Some people cheat some people don't. Better question is why didn't you work it out with the wife? Relationships take work

[Finchie40]

Because I was able to forgive her for cheating on me but I wasn’t able to forget , she has been trying to get me back and apologized to me over and over , We remained mutual for the kids sake but I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with someone that cheated on me period , I rather stay single then to commit to a cheater period

[MissBoogus]

I have no temptation. As for my boyfriend, he’s allowed to do whatever he wants.

[Finchie40]

So do you do whatever you want as well?

[MissBoogus]

Yes, which is nothing. I don’t feel temptation. I stay at home and play Pokémon

[Finchie40]

True , only you can choose your actions and choices in life and suffer the consequences of your choices and actions in life. I had a rough time after I was cheated on by my ex that I thought loved me like I loved her , My trust for girls’ went out the window and I just focused on what was best for me , I no longer resisted temptations from other
Girls I found attractive that wanted me , I just did it not having a care in the world to eventually realizing what I was doing was wrong , so for me to give my heart again to another girl I had to learn to remove selfishness and learn to resist temptation, if I wanted a girl to stand by my side I felt I had to do the same for her. We all have selfishness in us , so learning to remove that selfishness for someone else wasn’t an easy task to do