If a Girl wants to be with you, you will not know she cheated on you, What’s your thoughts on this?

[Finchie40]

I know cheating is a horrible thing that is talked about a lot , most people know it’s wrong to do but they do it anyways , so how do we truly know if someone is staying loyal to us? , How do we truly know if someone is resisting temptation for us? The answer is, it’s out of our control , if someone wants to cheat on you , then let them , let them live a lie , that they actually love you , let them live with the guilty conscious of being a piece of shit , they are only hurting themselves , Most people that say they aren’t cheaters and that say they are loyal blah blah blah are lying because sadly most of us are Cheaters, little do we realize , Flirting with the opposite sex while in a relationship is cheating , investing time into someone else over Your partner is cheating , cheating doesn’t always have to be physical , cheating is when you hide things from your partner period. Learn to remove selfishness , learn to resist temptation, learn to be honest within yourself and learn to be honest with your partner , understand you can’t always be right and your partner is wrong , make your partner your top priority over everyone , and that’s where love grows. If you can’t do that for someone, especially your partner , don’t expect them to do that for you period. Most people today are scared of relationships mainly for this reason. But the thing is you will never experience true love if you choose not to give what you want to receive. If a girl cheats on me and I don’t find out , she is just wasting her time pretending that she loves me , but one day she will face those demons and regret her selfish decision and realize how wrong she was , My ex wife is trying to get me back because she finally realized how selfish she was , I forgived her , but I will never forget , so she can keep begging all she wants , I can not give my heart back to a cheater period

[Miristheiss]

You need to trust your gut. You need to pay attention to red flags. Suddenly growing distant or cold. Suddenly being secretive with her phone or hiding it, changing screens when you walk in, you should have strong boundaries of not accepting single behavior. Don't date women who expect to still go out to clubs and party with the friends, don't date women that expect to have wild girls trips to Vegas or Miami... etc. Don't allow your girl to go out with guy friends. If she wants to keep a bunch of guy friends in her life then just move on. If she wants to go to clubs... move on. If she gets secretive with the phone tell her to give it to you and unlock it and let you look through it. If she refuses, you know she's up to something... move on.

There are no 100% guarantees in life but one can just trust their gut. If something seems odd, out of the norm and doesn't feel right... TRUST IT. Pick good women with good boundaries. Don't let a girl push the boundaries with hanging with other men and living like she is single. Dump her if she does that stuff.

[Angelo75]

I sense a lot of emotions in this post.

I'm sad you had to go through this.

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[Finchie40]

Thanks man , Sadly pretty much my whole experiences with girls’ and what I have witnessed from girls’ is most of them are cheaters , They will say men are cheaters as well which is true , but based off of my experiences and what I have witnessed , Girls’ are on top of the cheating scale. For me to trust a girl nowadays takes time , and sadly I was never like this before when I was younger but through the years it just got worse and worse. Most girls are selfish people that only really care about themselves, They think it’s funny to betray and backstab their partners that gave their heart to them , they think it’s a joke , they will tell their girlfriends what they did and who they did. I am not saying every girl is this way but sadly a huge majority of them are

[Angelo75]

There is always though a certain statistical probability that girls found in certain circles will have a higher chance of not staying loyal. Same goes for men.

Extreme example... if you go looking for a partner in a swingers club... well, you might end up meeting a person there that you fall in love with. But the idea of the place is to have sex with other people.
I didn't wanna mention any other places, cuz people might get offended or triggered.

What I'm saying is that there are some further "variables" that "could" give a higher chance of getting a partner that is less likely to cheat.

But I won't go into any further details cuz on all open chatboxes and forum, whenever there is a big public reading and they can be anonymous, people are very very VERY eager to run and correct each others posts and get into unnecessary discussions.

All I'm saying is, hang in there bro and look in multiple environments and look for multiple backgrounds. Don't only search for girls constantly at the same club... or bar... or park... or dating app... or whatever.
Hell, you could even try to look into other nationalities. But be careful cuz choosing a partner from another nationality will open a whole can of wurms with language-barrier and tradition-differences.

[Anonymous]

That’s the thing about relationships, there needs to be a form of trust even in the beginning. If my boyfriend came into our relationship expecting me to cheat on him because he was cheated on by his ex, our relationship wouldn’t be able to last because the trust isn’t there. Nobody should enter a relationship expecting the worst of the other person.

[chrissykerdock]

your problem is this strong paranoia... no girl is going to want to be with you if you have this paranoia... maybe you were burnt in the past but it can't always continue... besides how many girls go into a relationship wanting to cheat... we don't want that either... i wouldn't want to be with someone who i know is going to cheat either.

[Finchie40]

It’s not paranoia , it’s called being wise , yes my past experiences has taught me to be more wise when it comes to getting involved with a girl , before giving her my heart , I have my preferences on what kind of girl I would invest my time into , a girl that understands the true meaning of a relationship , a girl that understands the difference between selfishness and respect , a girl that understands what commitment means and loyalty and honesty , I am not Going to waste my time with a girl that clearly doesn’t know what she wants , a girl that jumps from cock to cock with no care in the world , She might get me in bed but she won’t be with me for the long haul , I will show her the curb where she belongs Thank you for a good time but not a long time I can only give my heart to a girl that is giving me hers bottom line , A girl that values me and appreciates me the same way I do for her , a girl that understands she can’t always be right and her partner is wrong. If boundaries are set we both need to follow those boundaries, not the other way around. When you learn within yourself , dignity , being trustworthy , being respectful , being honest , it’s easier for your partner to do the same for you , if you live your life lying and cheating and backstabbing and not resisting temptation, you are only going to get what you asked for.

[chrissykerdock]

it's paranoia... it's toxic i couldn't stand a guy like that for a second.

[Finchie40]

Because you want to be selfish and suck other cocks

[chrissykerdock]

that's not it... i only sucked 1 man's cock for the past 4 years

[Finchie40]

Not to long ago you said you ducked like 3 cocks in one night?

[chrissykerdock]

that was when i was younger sir

[Finchie40]

Ok , well I am saying is I am seeking a girl that is honest , not selfish, makes me a priority like I do to her, resists temptations for each other , only way that love grows and makes relationships last

[chrissykerdock]

you need to make an appointment with a psychiatrist as in today... coming on here for advice isn't going to make you normal... you've had a lot of trauma in your life you really need to go to one... there's also alternatives but i don't recommend them unless you really need to go that way.

[chrissykerdock]

i'm saying this out of love and concern for you... but your feelings are not right and downright scary

[Finchie40]

Thanks beautiful, I am just tired of having my heart stabbed

[LiamJHayden]

Despite all of your definitions of "cheating" the only definition that actually matters is the one held by the partner.

[OddBeMe]

I can’t speculate on things I “don’t know”…