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so I've been friends with this girl for about half a year now and always had a tiny little crush on her but nothing crazy and it never got in the way of us having a great friendship. But recently we had a dry period of about two months where we became distanced due to no mutual classes and busy schedules. I wanted to fix this friendship so now that it's spring break I invited her over to watch a light hearted movie. The hangout was going well and then we started to get a bit closer on the couch. I started playing with her hair and she then laid her head on my chest so I could be more comfortable doing so. this was kinda crazy and having the weight of her head on me while we watched started to reawaken my feelings and I got butterflies. I even started telling her how nice her hair was and that I could do this all day, even caressing her head a bit too. this went on for like 10-15 minutes and she even stayed on me after the credits started rolling. this was a really awesome moment for me but the following 2 days she just acted like nothing happened. she is still talking to me like im her friend even calling me bestie so that is pretty much telling me its over. I asked if we could watch another movie since I had one in mind and she responded to me pretty unenthusiastically saying maybe sometime but she was very busy and she isn't free for over a week. if there's any advice or interpretations of this behaviour id appreciate it because its not looking to good for me.

No I’m not a sociopath. In fact I am sometimes too empathetic for people.

Anyway I have known a few in my life (even regrettably dated one in the past). I can’t change their nature but just accept the sad fact they can never be trusted. Sociopaths will only value people to the point they get value out of them. This can be sneaky because their “value” can mean different things. It can be looks, money, sex , social optics, etc. Even the ones who are heavily involved in “social justice” initiatives just want the social kudos that come along with it vs. really caring about the people they are supposedly fighting for. Sociopaths see life as a chessboard.

They get paranoid about being “found out” because when they know when that happens people don’t trust them. They need to be trusted to gain their own ends. So they are good at acting and behaving seemingly genuine. But when no one’s looking they will be the last to inconvenience themselves to help someone else who can’t repay them. That’s the acid test of identifying a sociopath; how do they treat people who can’t benefit them.

With all that said a part of me can’t help a bit envy for these people at times. They seem to always get what they want. Sociopathic men usually do (at least initially) very well romantically with women compared to more empathetic men.

It’s because they come off as confident and non chalant because they aren’t worried about hurting a woman’s feelings. They understand the concept of challenge and good at being manipulative. But they put on acts like they care to convince them otherwise. And of course they become the nasty heart break stories women complain about. Then some of these hurt women generalize ALL men for these asshole’s bs.

But on the flip side it must be a heavy burden knowing that you can never really be trusted and must always cover your ass.