My first question ever, why would you date someone that you wouldn't ended marrying them?

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I wanna know. What's the point of dating? Losing some years only to date someone's else after that? Getting heart broken when a relationship doesn't works or after breaking up? Is dating driven by sexual desire?

Will you marry the person who you are dating now or not? If not, why wasting their time and your time in this relationship?

jazzyjic78 · Accepted Answer

He's called Mr. Wrong, dating him while waiting on Mr. Right or Mr. Almost or Mr. Pretty Close. I guess I'd say the flesh is weak, but the spirit is willing. It's not easy for everyone to wait around when they have a high sex tolerance level, that has to be released or you'll eventually explode, now that's called a "heart attack or stroke".

Or you'll walk around with a nasty attitude, and snobby for no reason towards people. It's not good to waste time, or be intimate with someone that you don't want to marry but it's healthy for you to get that workout. It's just like having a pet, exercising, having joy full of laughter, it basically makes you feel good but not the right thing to do when not married. Sometimes it takes a man time to make that decision, and sometimes once they decide to marry you it's too late, your heart no longer desires him.

Some men will date you and you don't have to be intimate with them at all they will wait for you and marry you but I never met anyone like that, more power to you. I'd hate to be disappointed with someone, you marry them and they can't satisfy you intimately? Now for the rest of your life you have to use your imagination just to make yourself have an orgasm. That's terrible!

It's says in the Bible it's better for a man to put his seed in the belly of a whore than to let it spill on the ground. A whore is a married woman not a single woman dating. And a whoremongers is a married man. So I guess you should date on your terms and how you see fit, whatever works for you.

SecretsofKB · Accepted Answer

Every person I've dated have been people I intended to stay with for awhile. I never just dated someone just because. I've always put in the effort on my end and considered each person seriously. I actually fully thought my last relationship was with THE person for me... before it ended.

Which turned out to be a good thing, because now I am with an incredible person that I'm engaged to!

DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

What is the point in dating? well... do you just marry the first guy that comes your way? do you take a person at face value? so that means you don`t "open that book`s cover" to discover the insides... Dating is to try to find that "someone" that you are "compatible" with... you can find a person that in the beginning is nice, and after a little while, at the little stress/argument, they just "explode" hurting you in the process, and from there, that`s how your life is going to be, would you be happy with that? I won`t, i need to know you the real "you" before i can make a final decision,`im not perfect either, but we if we are "good together" when things go bad, then we will be brilliant/inseparable when things go good.

LiamS95 · Accepted Answer

Good question, but I see you're a beautiful religious woman and I can fully understand why you would question this. Some persons without your faith do take a but of time to decide if another person if right fir them to spend a lifetime with them. I hope you can understand this answer and realize I mean no disrespect to you at all.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

All three of my relationships I began with the goal of marrying them one day. Unfortunately I made mistakes (as did they) and we learned many things over time. I can’t see committing to marriage within the first month of getting to know a stranger so I see many positives to dating. Does that make sense?

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

So that way you can get to know them and whether you'd click long term or not. Making sure both of you are on the same page. I mean, if you're intending to marry someone, you wouldn't want to divorce a few months or 1 year later, right? So that's why you date first. But some people don't want marriage so they just will keep dating.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have always dated with having a future together in mind. Of course, it doesn't always work out but no pain, no gain.

Fireguy17 · Answer

don't you have to date someone for a while in order to find out if you would want them as a life partner?
Other than that, I really do not know any other way to go about it.
When you first meet them and start dating them you just do not have a clue if you will fall in love and get married.

SweetDripp · Answer

The purpose of dating is to get to know someone well enough to make a decision on whether or not it will work long-term. Hooking up regularly with someone is not dating.

RavVid · Answer

Well marrying isn't really an option any more. With a median length of 8 years 2 kids and about 80% unilateral divorces initiated by women it is just not on.

NamerOfStars · Answer

What on Earth makes you think it's "wasting their time" to date someone you don't intend to marry? You date them to DATE them.

If you don't like being with them, why would you want to be with them for the rest of your life?

Anonymous · Answer

People don't think about marriage right away because they don't know the person they are dating, the whole point of dating is getting to know them and seeing if you feel that way about them.

Some people just want comfort from others to start with, it's not straight thought to marriage, they want to find a connection and you can't find that if you, you can't look at a person and think I want to marry them without getting to know them, what if they are a horrible person

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

That might be ok for arranged marriages, but for people who want to make their own decision, dating is a way of finding out if you are compatible!

strateguy632 · Answer

if i already decided not to marry her, then i would have a relationship so i won't be lonely while i search. if i don't know if i will marry them i still date to know them so i can decide yes or no.

In_Trance · Answer

I think the complete opposite. I see no point in marriage

exitseven · Answer

I dated a couple of girls that were a lot of fun to be with but I knew they were all wrong for me. I was curious about them.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I wouldn't to me that wasted motion. If you don't see a future with them then why bother?

worldscolide · Answer

I Always dated with the intent of marriage.. It took 7 relationships to get there, and 14 years of wasted time before i met my wife.

LiamJHayden · Answer

How will one know if he or she  might  be willing to choose someone as a life partner with dating that person first?

OtterMan68 · Answer

you don't want to get married, just companionship and someone to go out to eat with, see a movie, go on a vacation

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Because I enjoy the company of that person in my current state. Something does not have to be permanent to be valuable.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Im not planning on getting married till my mid 30s…so in the meantime I need to get relationship experience, figure out what works, what doesn’t, etc

Abdulwahh · Answer

It can be a waste of time and why do exes become enemies lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly see no point anymore. After 25 there really is little point anymore.

Iron_Man · Answer

Dating is to see how you work out

Adogdog · Answer

That would be my goal is to marry them.

Fullshow · Answer

I personally seriously do it

JayBones2469 · Answer

They had niceties or knew how to suck a dick

jahaims · Answer

Immature people do it for validation

Prodigy5401 · Answer

For the sex

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Easy pussy.

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