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i met this guy on yikyak and although we never shared pictures or exchanged social media or talked on call, we described to each other how we look. i lied about my appearance (i’m overweight and not conventionally attractive so i was insecure). i’m (18F) talking to a guy (21M). we started off with just sexting. we caught feelings for each other and are still talking (since January 2024). the thing is that initially in the beginning i didn’t give him my real name or which city i live in. slowly over time, these lies built up. i didn’t think we would even talk for more than a week but we still are. he knows my age, where and what i study, but i lied to him about my name, where i live, my ethnicity/nationality (i’m a woc), what my parents do, sibling, what i look like, and some of my outfits. i also told him i have an ex of 6 years who cheated on me (i was embarrassed i didn’t have any ex when he has 2-3). over time as we caught feelings for each other, he told me he would like to meet me (he’d fly to where i study), ask me out, date me for a couple of years and finally marry me and have a family with me. i think despite these lies we have a real connection- we talk about our dreams and ambitions, our feelings, our favorite music and movies, we talk about books, about our families, our problems, our achievements and pretty much everything. i’m the only person besides his mom who he has told about what he wants to do in the future. we talk most of the day and sleep together on spotify jam. i made him a playlist and he made me one. this weekend he asked me to make a playlist for us to sleep to. a week ago, i told him i loved him and he told me he loved me. i genuinely love this guy a lot and want to have a real relationship with him. should i tell him the truth? if so, how will he react? or should i just tell him i can’t meet because my parents don’t approve and let him go forever?

We hang out with the same group of friends. He always makes a lot of comments and considerations about my personality, which annoys me a bit. A selection of things he said about me I can remember about:

- he often compares me to his mother

- He thinks “I know a lot of trivia” (not sure how to take that)

- He tends to think that I’m better at doing things than I actually am

- he sometimes comments my hobbies saying I’m ready to become a mom

- he once commented in a surprised way that I am more playful than he thought I would be

- he’s usually making compliments as to my abilities

- he’s usually very caring with me

- I’m pretty sure he talked to one of his male friends about me and complained that I am too independent as a woman (because his friend called me out about me not letting men be gallant with me and that’s something that I’ve already heard from him)