How do you deal with mean sisters?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I'm at my breaking point. I am the oldest of four kids and I have sisters who are twins and two years younger than me. They can honestly be very cruel and mean. They always argue together towards me, they would never go out of their way to help me or simply never respond to my messages, isolate me from activities, and insult me. Today was my breaking point because I didn't realize I bled through my scrubs (I haven't gotten my period for 2 months due to stress so I was so excited to tell my mom and sisters the good news). I called for my sisters to please pass me new underwear so I can exit the restroom (my dad was in the living room). They said no, no , no. I erupted after 20 minutes of begging them through the door to come here so I can tell them and ended up screaming I HAVE BLOODY UNDERWEAR AND PANTS DRIPPING PLEASE COME HERE AND BRING ME UNDERWEAR PLEASE PLEASE. I was so embarrassed to do that in front of my dad and kinda hurt they wouldn't even get off their phones to come ask me simply if I was okay.

They constantly make fun of my personality saying I'm too nice, my weight (I'm more curvier than them) and isolate me. I begged them to go on a hiking trip with me but they declined because they had an exam coming up in 3 months. I also just found out 2 days ago they both went hiking together without me secretly. It kinda hurts me although I understand I should have my own friends my own age. My parents don't say anything at all, and yell at me if I say something, except one time.

Also I usually do 95% of the daily chores, expected to clean after them and my family, take care of my little brother (sometimes I feel like a single mom) and get insulted by my parents. I do my best not to engage but tbh... I'm tired. I don't know what to do.

Any suggestions for better communication with them? I genuinely love them so much and want us to have a good relationship. Thank you so much for reading.

[12karen]

I understand how you feel, and I'm sure your situation is more complicated than mine,

I only have a little sister 7 years younger than me and honestly I don't want anymore..

As an older sister, we would like to control and protect them and at the same time be respected. my sis, almost every day she tells me "I will never respect you.." and it hurts bc I feel powerless and yet we are here the eldest and the responsible, and even then the parents are very rarely our side, at least the only thing I learned as a big sister is to RELY ONLY ON MYSELF , there is nothing I can except from my sis or my parents in this situation and I isolate myself most of the time... You can blackmail, it could have worked if your sisters were not twins, there are two of them. My sis sometimes she asks me for help even for small things and when I ask her to help in return and she doesn't, I remind her what I did when she needed me, and when she I ignore me or disrespect me, she would definitely tell me something and then I completely ignore her. The things that works the most is dramatizing and victimizing myself, (I'm not sure it works for everyone) at some point, when she bothers me , I turn the situation against her , I dramatize and victimize myself in front of my parents but I must not overdo it, and I draw hasty conclusions, I don't know how to explain, but it worked somehow. You also have to be strict, shout if necessary, show authority, she's my sis so if I have to hit her, I hit hard, but I stick to the principle "you are angry, I will provoke you, you hit me, and I defend myself, you hurt me, I tell you that you broke my limbs" ALWAYS LET HER HIT FIRST. anyway, I know I have weird advice that will make you seem childish but beig responsible and mature don't work,... and also, it's nasty but find something you can use against them, a little secret nasty enough that you can use in case of extreme emergency..

good luck 🙂

never let insults get to you, you will never be too nice, be yourself, show them how important you are and what their life will be like without you. Make them suffer, make them miss and need you. Be nice and always positive then all of sudden, don't give a fuck anymore,

Kiss 😚