So me and my (ex) boyfriend got into a fight. He was supposed to come to me around 8. He said that to me days earlier. The day we was supposed to meet he went to work that morning. And then he visit two separate family friends. He got me bubble tea on the way. i asked him if he already ate and he didn't. Mind you i didn't eat either I was in the proces of starting to make food for us. But wasn't able to finish it cause i needed some things from the store, which now was closed. By the time he was at mines it was 10 pm. When he came i gave him a hug with one hand. I was a bit upset he was so late. He hadn't eaten yet. And made a comment about wanting home made food. I didn't say anything. So he went to get macdonalds. When we was driving. He constanly was saying that he couldnt hear me. And the way he was speaking was kind of passive aggresive. So after him like saying that 20 times. And me not able to say one sentence without repeating myself constanly. I reacted a bit annoyed that he wasn't hearing anything i was saying. We started going a bit back and forth. And when i mentioned him being late he flipped, threw his macdonalds on his car window while driving and speeded me home. I almost left and then we both wanted to just act normal. And then it escalated. He was screaming and hitting himself and because of that the bubble tea expploded cause he fell on it while jumping ot his seat. Im covered in bubble tea. And i leave. He follows me and keeps ringing the doorbell, by now its 11 pm. And he keeps non stop ringing my doorbell, disturbing my neighbours too. I wanted him to stop so i said i was calling his mother to make him stop. I was thinking about it. He calls his mom before i could do and told her I don't know what. Even his uncle got somehow involved. And im made out to be the badguy. He wanted me to come with him to his mom that night. I didn't Now he and his whole fam are mad at me.
Update he had a mark cause hr hit humself with the bubble tea cup and now he is saying that somehow I did that
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Ay mama, that whole situation sounds toxic as hell. Dude was clearly in the wrong for being so damn late without even communicating. And then flipping out on you like that? Throwing food, hitting himself, ringing the doorbell nonstop - that's straight up abusive behavior.
You did nothing wrong by standing your ground and not letting him drag you to see his moms. Who knows what kind of crazy he would've spun to them. Abusers always try to turn it around and blame the girl somehow.
I say give it more time no contact before even thinking of dealing with him or the fam again. His actions showed you who he really is deep down - someone with serious anger issues not afraid to intimidate. He's still trying to manipulate you by lying about the marks too smh.
Stay strong, don't doubt yourself. You stood up for your worth and safety, periodt. If they keep harassing you, think about getting the cops involved sis. You do not deserve that mess. Know your worth - you'll find someone way better who treats a queen like you with respect!
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