My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. I met him during undergrad. Throughout school, I was working part time jobs to help pay for bills whereas he had a luxury to work if he wanted pocket money. I bought him whatever he needed during that time and made him a priority always no matter what without fail whereas he treated me differently. He did spend money on me for gifts but not as significant effort as I put into it. After I graduated, I applied to graduate school since that’s required for my education. I can’t work while in graduate school though because they don’t allow it, but he has a salary job.
He knew my laptop wasn’t working well, so he took it upon himself to help me get a new one which I appreciated. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with the site he was getting it from. He didn’t listen, got it anyway, kept it for a week without making sure if it was working condition, made me drive a long way to him (we live 3 hours away), go home to see it was faulty. I had to return it myself without his help and my family who’ve been making ends met had to step up and get me the device.
I talked to my bf’s friend that works at an electronic store about tablets for school as well to see if there’s deals, and called my boyfriend to inform him I did so. During the call though, he kept saying that I “purposely” make him look bad and was using the victim card. He kept cutting me off and didn’t let me speak. I told him my chest hurts/hyperventilating since I was overwhelmed and he kept going on and on. I cried and that’s when he stopped and made me feel bad for crying, but apologized saying he was “joking.” Afterwards, he “fell asleep” and didn’t let me know beforehand when he was going to bed so I didn’t have to worry. i confronted him about it both but he apologized and doesn’t seem like he understands the magnitude of what he’s done. What should I do? What type of behavior is this? Why is he acting this way?
