Who is in the wrong here?

[Anonymous]

My older sister gave me a bad childhood, she was always sad and i was always supposed to be there to protect her and save her. When i was 22 my mom took measures and got the authorities to handle her because she was out of control. Then my mom asked me to help her with explaining the problem and then my sister got angry at me and completely cut me off. I felt very guilty and sad for ruining her life, thats how it felt.

She then starting hating me and i felt so guilty i started doing really self destructing things like ruining my future and hanging out with the wrong people eventually a suicide attempt. She didn't care and even laughed at me behind my back. After 5 years i saw her again and she started blacmailing me with posting embarassing pictures of me and snitched on em with some things she knows of me. WHo is in the wrong here? she never cared about me while i ruined my life for her. whos in the wrong

[HOAAH]

Sister problems, I feel you. I have sister problems too.
Your mom was probably not really helping you both to learn to love and forgive one another.
Your sister should not be your problem, she shouldn't be the one that you need to live your life around to make happy. Her happiness relies solely on herself. Your happiness relies on your self. If you do good in school or if you helped out a neighbor, these are the things that should make you happy.
You shouldn't have to protect and save her. That is totally NOT your job. Your job is just to treat her nice, by some times sharing with her or saying kind things to her. Showing her respect and love is your "job" as a sister, not to be a "parent" to her. Saving her and protecting her should be your MOM's job!

How did you "ruin" her life? Anyways, why is she cutting you out for? She shouldn't be cutting you out, especially if you did nothing to "ruin" her life. If she wants to act like that, and she isn't being understanding or appreciative of you, it means only one thing. It means she just thinks of herself and not of you. Which is very selfish.

Why is she hating on you? Why doesn't she care that you tried to commit suicide? You need to not focus on her hate for you. If you were a Christian, you need to focus on God's love for you. That God wants to love you and take care of you and give you eternal hope. You need to find that God cares for your life and he does not want you to die. God wants you to live! He wants you to eat yummy food! And he wants you to relax, and feel the gentle breeze. Enjoy your life, and love your sister when you can but don't let her be the sole focus of your life.

I have sister issues too so feel free to PM me if you want to talk! :)

[Asker]

She doesnr care she even used it against me

[HOAAH]

don't focus too much on her and her hate for you. Focus more on God and his love for you.

[Asker]

Yh but she knows secrets of me

[HOAAH]

Don't be afraid. What can she do to you? You will be fine. I know it is hurtful to have her be mean to you but just know that God forgives and has mercy on you. God does not treat you like she does. God is always kind to you. God wants you to feel special and important. His hand is not too short to save you and perform miracles in your life!!

[Asker]

Ruin my reputatiin incl job

[HOAAH]

Why would she want to do that for? What's in it for her? Doesn't she have more important things to do? Do you have anyone on your side who might be able to reason with you that whatever secret she has is not going to ruin your reputation with those who love you or ruin your work career.