Me and this guy have been dating each other for 2 months now and confessed we both like each other and he would hold my hand, hug me, etc. He used to text me right away and frequently throughout the hours when we were dating in the beginning but now he never initiates the text and texts back very slowly. I wasn’t bothered by it much at first knowing he must be busy and i understand but now he texts me back when he feels like it. I brought this up to be honest with him that a simple “hey how are you” at least ONCE throughout the week would make me feel good but he continues to not text me. The only time he texts me is on fridays-sundays saying “he has free time.” This makes me sad that i’m busy as well but texting for 10 minutes to check up on him doesn’t kill me. I know this may sound childish but I hope some people on here can understand my frustration. And what’s FUNNY is that he still makes plans to go on dates with me and says he likes me but doesn’t text me much. Is this normal for guys? Am I asking for too much?
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I can't speak for him because everyone is different in their own way but personally I'm pretty terrible at texting as well.
Everyone arround me knows that they shouldn't expect me to pick up the phone when they call or that I respond right away when they text me. Sometimes it takes me more then a day to be able to have the right mindset to respond.
I'm trying to respond as quickly as possible but when my head is overloaded and to many messages are coming in from friends, my mood can be killed pretty quickly and when that happens I throw my phone away and dont touch it anymore for half a day, or a day.
Last week my mother was scared that something bad happened because my phone was off for like 3 days in a row. I didn't appreciate her unexpected visit but she was worried so that's understandable ofcourse.
But when I really like a girl, I would put some extra effort into it and texting only on a Friday once a week is insufficient.
Be carefull not to fall in love to quickly because he might be only interested in occasionally fucking you. So be vigilant of that in the beginning and communicate with him but don't pressure him to much on it.
Just let him know you would appreciate it if he puts some more effort into it. But don't force him text you within a certain time period...
But you gave him space so your good just like.
The golden rule for a woman who wants to date a dude guy is making sure you don't give him sex to soon. Let him prove that is willing to wait and and just observe his actions.
If he stays and still puts effort in a girl without then he really likes you but if he moves on you will know that he wasn't serious 🤷♂️
Im a very bad texter aswell like really bad and some of my male friends are aswell. I write maybe 1-2 times every 2 weeks with my best friends. Rather meet in person than text or call kind of person.
Anyways when I had a girlfriend I would be texting her daily or at least making sure to text within 2 days. Same goes for my above mentioned friends aswell. For a person you like you will go out of your way.
Seems like he isn't as interested in you and you're just his weekend girlfriend.