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He always tells me that he likes me and that he wants me and enjoys spending his time with me.. that said he’s been chasing me for almost a year now and overall we’ve been talking for two years almost BUT I don’t feel it I don't know if it’s because we’re long distanced or not but I tried to believe his feelings and when I’m about to tell him “yeah maybe I have same feelings for you” he ruins it right before me confessing my feelings he ruins it with his delayed ass messages that don’t even do much bc of how cold they are.. he never posts new pics of him although I ask him to do so and he just plays it off cool saying he doesn’t have any new ones which I certainly don’t believe.. He never asks me questions that show how much he gives a damn.. Never to dive deep down into the conversation.. never sends me gifts or something sweet such as a reel on Instagram expressing his damn love for me and it goes on and on… Y'all tell me if I’m tripping or he doesn’t love me like he claims!! Mind y’all I did once hint about me starting having something for him so he should know and instead of ruining it every time he should know how to win my heart! On the other side, he kinda cares when I ghost him he’s always the one to text first saying how much he misses me and how he can’t complete his day without me and when I did no contact with him he still came and left messages saying hope everything is alright and even shared food pics with me as he usually does, not to mention when I tried to push him away from me he insisted that he would never give up on me and blah blah blah I don't know but I’m hella confused!

He always tells me that he likes me and that he wants me and enjoys spending his time with me.. that said he’s been chasing me for almost a year now and overall we’ve been talking for two years almost BUT I don’t feel it I don't know if it’s because we’re long distanced or not but I tried to believe his feelings and when I’m about to tell him “yeah maybe I have same feelings for you” he ruins it right before me confessing my feelings he ruins it with his delayed ass messages that don’t even do much bc of how cold they are.. he never posts new pics of him although I ask him to do so and he just plays it off cool saying he doesn’t have any new ones which I certainly don’t believe.. He never asks me questions that show how much he gives a damn.. Never to dive deep down into the conversation.. never sends me gifts or something sweet such as a reel on Instagram expressing his damn love for me and it goes on and on… Y'all tell me if I’m tripping or he doesn’t love me like he claims!! Mind y’all I did once hint about me starting having something for him so he should know and instead of ruining it every time he should know how to win my heart! On the other side, he kinda cares when I ghost him he’s always the one to text first saying how much he misses me and how he can’t complete his day without me and when I did no contact with him he still came and left messages saying hope everything is alright and even shared food pics with me as he usually does, not to mention when I tried to push him away from me he insisted that he would never give up on me and blah blah blah I don't know but I’m hella confused!

I like my boss. He is such a sweetheart! He makes eye contact when we talk, laughs/jokes with me, tries to invite me to work outings (which I usually avoid unless they're mandatory), etc. I know he's my boss, but he makes it a point to let me know he'll accept a call for help at any time of the day and wants me to call him when I'm feeling down... I joked about the latter when he first suggested it and accidentally chuckled in a sultry way, which he seemed to do in return? I felt there was some "tension" between us at that time... but that could have been my own "tension" talking.

I love that he's respectful to women regardless of looks, and I also realize that he might not be into me and is just being kind. DGMW, I'm not ugly... but I'm very aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea... I've been reminded of that multiple times since I was young. Penelope/Colin relationships, especially ones where Pen looks more like Kate or Lady Danbury than Daphne or Queen Charlotte, are uncommon. I've also noticed my coworkers (mostly the women) acting funny towards me ever since this one time he told me he liked my hair. I can't tell when I'm liked because it's so few and far between, so I don't know if they're seeing something I'm not or just being weird... don't men compliment hair?

I made the mistake of dating a coworker while we worked together years ago; I wouldn't dare pursue a relationship with a coworker now. I've also been rejected by every guy I've ever confessed to, so I'm hesitant to put myself out there. I want him to make the first move, but I'm also worried, if he feels the same way, that he's too scared to say anything to me... so I want to try to "guide" him to me. I told him a few months back that I wanted him to "not be a stranger" with me after I quit, and he's said I should let him know when I'm quitting. "Tension" made me feel he was saying it in that sort of way, and I'm thinking of revisiting that convo when I tell him I'm quitting.