Should I text my ex?

[Anonymous]

recently i’ve had the sudden urge to contact my ex. not because i miss him or would like to get back together, but because i’d like to wish him well. we broke up like 6 years ago and are both in relationships so i think it would be weird since so much time has passed.

a little more background, we went through a lot because we were only teenagers when we were together, so sometimes i do miss the friendship. but i’ve since healed and worked a long time to get to the mental space where i am today to be able to move on from him and that relationship. however i don’t know why i have a strong urge to contact him. i guess in a way i’m looking to officially close that chapter? i’m not sure where the urge to contact him is coming from. should i do it?

Updates

11 mo

where are the women at!! lmao
only men over the age of 30 have been responding

[OlderAndWiser]

No. If you contact him and the contact goes well, it may lead to a desire to rekindle the friendship. Being involved with an ex, even on a platonic basis, has the strong potential to interfere with your present relationships. Exes should be viewed only in your rear-view mirror.

[Screenwriter]

You need to find out where the urge IS coming from. Six years is a long time. Are you about to seal the deal with the person you're with so you want to clear the air with that first serious relationship person?

If that's not it, you might drop in with a therapist and search for the real reason behind this. Curiosity about how he's doing? Want to tell him how well you're doing? There could be 25 reasons.

But, since you didn't remain friends, none of these reasons seem good enough ones to contact him.

Write him a letter you'll never mail. Do all the talking that you think you'd want to do in a phone call in the letter. Your regrets, what was positive, and that you wish him well. Seal it and put it away. Eventually, you'll be able to throw it away.

Resist this urge. He hasn't contacted you, has he? Means he isn't interested in doing so. This is why he is an "ex." Leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Especially not considering you have partners, that’s disrespectful to them.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the age-old dilemma of reaching out to an ex! My aim here is to help you navigate these murky waters without drowning in the deep end. If reaching out feels like lobbing a friendly message without any hidden lovebombing agenda, and you're sure it'll provide closure, go for it! But if there's a risk of opening old wounds, maybe let that urge float away. Your happiness and mental peace always come first, darling! 😉

[HusamRocks]

Don't 👍🏻

[In_Trance]

Never

[Anonymous]

Maybe.