Should I text my ex?

[Anonymous]

I've been wanting to talk to my ex so bad. Tomorrow makes it 4 months after the breakup and I don't know why it's so hard for me to keep to myself. Like I literally feel like texting him. I miss him. But I haven't broken no contact since the breakup but he has. I know I still love him and I don't know if reaching out is a bad idea. I actually just wanna talk. Just to know that he's ok and hear his voice I guess. I don't even know. Maybe it's closure I'm seeking or whatever. I can't believe I'm struggling like this even after 4 months. In the beginning it felt easier but its so tough right now. Plus I'm sick and i feel thats increasing the urge to talk to him. Should I talk to him?

[Drumlin2001]

He ended ot, it's going to be more difficult for you as you were still invested. But you have to move on.

[Asker]

I know but it's so hard. I still feel we can work out. At some point when he broke no contact he said he wanted us back but the funny thing is he was never consistent. He asked only once and I said I was good and he left just like that

[Drumlin2001]

He had a choice to talk and try to work it through. But he chose to end it. He seems to lack emotional intelegance which will only bring you more pain down the path. Find someone less flakey.

[Asker]

I get you... I listened to something yesterday and well I don't know if its right. It's was about crying to an ex after they broke up with you. So basically I never cried back to my ex after he broke up with me apart from that day. I kept up with no contact and I don't know why I feel sad that he may feel like I never loved him meanwhile I cry myself to sleep every night cause of how much hurt I feel and how much I wish we worked out

[Wise4myage]

Seems pointless to me, but go for it if you can’t resist the urge.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice. But why do u feel its pointless

[Wise4myage]

Because he's an ex?

[Asker]

I know but I still have feelings for him. I still stupidly think we can work out even with the plenty break ups we had

[Wise4myage]

Well good luck

[Asker]

Thanks 😂

[stratford]

Who broke up with who?

[Asker]

He broke up with me

[stratford]

The definitely don't message him. You need to move on - it's won't end well.