Should I text my ex boyfriend every now and again to show I care how he is doing?

[Bethany22]

Although my ex boyfriend didn't want to marry me, he always was nice to me and bought me well thought out presents for holidays. Does this mean I should feel guilty for breaking it off, whereby I should send him a text every so often to ask how he's doing? Or should I take his own lack of texts to mean he's fine with the fact that I left, and that he's moved on? Would it look pathetic on my part, or just friendly, if I just reached out?

[StormChaser838]

First why did he say NO !!! That's the million dollar question. All the good things you say he did are just consolatory cock !, I would not commit to my x because she would not put down her first guy even after promises. My principals did not allow me to base my marriage on a two time. That's why she fucked me very spitefully.

Now I don't know the full story in your case, but you come off looking mighty cheap. I mean if he confessed to you that he was a HOMO or something and that you were too good a girl to marry for social reasons while he got bum fucked by his lover in private and he did not want to make you live a life like that and said no to marrying you, I could understand, and your actions too. But otherwise, spend the time more fruitfully. I told you what to do, make a list on marriable meat, then rate it. Then I'll show you how you can catch any prick like taking candy from a baby. If you don't want to do that, at least don't bum lick. Common, where's your pride , your standard. Sorry, but I have to give it straight, it's to save you and your pride, you are toooooooo good for this shit.

[motownplayer2000]

Means you still want him. He is fine since he isn’t crawling back to you. That’s well done by him. You left because he wouldn’t give you the ring. Sooo that means your value to him wasn’t up to par with his expectations of you. You need to re-evaluate what you did wrong for him not to wife you up immediately.

[Paris13]

It's lovely You have a Friendly and Civil relationship as of now. If Anything, Stay friends and one Never does Know----How it Might Go. Someday. Yes, Reach Out in a Friendly manner. xxoo

[AviatorTom]

I'm guessing that would make him feel uncomfortable. If you have access to his other social media, maybe you can check up on him every once in a while.

[Summeroflove]

If you feel like reaching out. Then reach out. Caring about someone isn’t pathetic.

[OlderAndWiser]

He has moved on and you would look pathetic.

[Leapfrog00]

You could, but just be careful. If you're the one who broke it off, it may cause him to miss you more. Just make sure if you do text him, tell him you're not trying to get back together, but you still care about him. Personally, whenever an ex-girlfriend texted me when my heart was broken, it only made me wish we were still together.
Hope this helped.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think it would be a good idea to force things...

if you did not end up in good terms and it did not happen "naturally" then why force it... if you two ended in not so good terms chances are that he would not be interested either

a good question would also be... why do you still care? because you regret doing something? because of lingering feelings? mere curiosity, doubts, second thoughts?

[Finchie40]

Why did you break up with him if he treated you well? You are probably best not to text him and mislead him , if he still has feelings for you he is going to have a hard time just being your friend , so you are best to just move on and let him be so he can find someone that doesn’t want to leave his side

[TooHot2Care]

Nah you’re doing it all wrong. Completely ignore him.

In the house.
On the phone.
On a mouse.
In a call.

He will get hot and bothered because men love bitches. This tactic is called “sexy neglecty” and it must work because hot girls on TikTok without guys next to them said so.

[glennos89]

Are you making his life better? Or are you making it more difficult for him? That's something you should ask yourself

[Anonymous]

Leave it alone. You broke it off w him. To me you’d sort of be giving me mixed signals. Like ok you broke up w me but you’re still texting me, wtf, you still have feelings for me? Just let it go. I’m sure he’s fine, even if he isn’t right now he will be eventually. But you texting him is only going to delay him feeling better if he isn’t already.

[summiter]

I'm glad you still care about him but he seems to have moved on and so should you.

[OfMiceandMen]

You have to be careful talking to exes. He may misinterpret the texts as an invite to start things up again. If he's moved on and he likes you better than his current girlfriend that could unnecessarily rock the boat in another relationship.

[OfMiceandMen]

Sometimes what seems to be a harmless text can have consequences we do not foresee.

[Mansearching]

@Bethany22 Why would you do that. I don't text or call my ex's. Neither they me. We've gone our separate ways.

[justabuddy]

I think this is something you should ask him. Specifically for how often to keep in touch. It's hard for us to get in his head and know his feelings. I think over time any wounds created would heal, but until you know where he stands it could be risk. I would follow the don't be pushy but don't give up philosophy.

[ShellyB]

I would not personally, I think it could be confusing or send a message you do not intend to send. Or maybe you do intend it, if so that is different.

[Legendarylegacy13]

So everything was going good and you broke up with him cause he wouldn't marry you. That's a good reason not to propose. The only way that would make sense is if he said he didn't want to marry you period. Or he never wanted to marry.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Of course not take your relationship’s seriously and be consistent also never forget there isn’t a man in existence who does not love a nurturing woman show him how much you care

[Stoner710]

No you just fuck with his mind by doing that makes him think you want to get back together

[koko22]

Noooo dont, keep yourself occupied... Whats meant for you will always be yours and whats not will never be...

[Coden7]

Yeah don’t text him. Just sends all sorts of mixed signals, especially since you haven’t already been texting.