My boyfriend only texts me once or twice a day should I worry?

[Anonymous]

Haven't met his friends or family but he said I can and they know about me. Not fb friends yet but he said he will add me but hasn't yet (so we can do the relationship status thing ) anyway should I worry about him not texting much? we have dated 5 months exclusively.

[Anonymous]

Why worry? Like scenario one: he loves you and doesn't like texting. All is good and nothing bad will happen but your anxiety could ruin a good thing. Scenario two: he does like texting but doesn't like texting you and is probably going to leave you soon. This ones on the extreme side on purpose. Let's say this is true and it happens. Afterwards you'll be really sad for a certain period of time then either get over it or die before you get over it. If you don't die you'll be fine and your life will continue on with a bunch of sad moments and a bunch of happy moments. There's nothing really to fear at all. And you probably already know this. I guess what I'm trying to say is you're worrying about this not because you're actually afraid of what's going to happen or what may be happening, you're worrying about this most likely because it's just an engrained pattern of behavior. Nothing bad is happening you should just focus on recognizing when you're worrying. Then from there take a timer and for like 5~15 mins just close your eyes and breathe. Only think about breathing in and out and when a thought pops up just think I can think about that after I finish calming down. You've got to break the pattern of anxiety because anxiety is a positive feedback loop meaning if nothing interferes with it it'll only cause more anxiety. But simply putting a little time between thinking a worrying thought and having an emotional reaction to it is enough to help you chill out and move on. Truth is your relationship is probably fine.

[Asker]

I do have bad. Anxiety he know it too

[Opinion Owner]

Do the breathing thing. It's sound silly but it works. I've got a biology degree and I currently work in a psychology research lab. It's a simple but really effective trick.

[Asker]

Awesome I'll try it... last semester on my bio degree... Yay for bio majors... hello mcat lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah definitely get that anxiety in check before medical school. It'll wreck your life

[Asker]

Oh o will try to... trying out escitalopram right now on day 2 so hopefully it helps

[Instamarioworld]

Worry. it could be a number of things but just think about this. If a man is proud of who he is with or doesn't have anybody or anything on his Facebook page that could have you questioning him then he would add you. especially if you are being honest about how you feel. five months is enough time for you to ask for things like that.

[miamigirl1970]

5 months and you are not linked on social media? That alone might concern me. Texting once a day or twice, not so much if he is busy or working, but would still want more communication than that from someone I have given half of a year to. I would discuss this with him, ask him if you can possibly have more communication about the lack of communication going on. Best of Luck

[Anonymous]

Don't jump to conclusions. My friend had a bad experience with a girl once and when they broke up, her friends used FB to trash him to no end.
Then he met his current girlfriend and he didn't befriend her on FB. It's been almost a year and they're not FB friends.
Besides, if he sees you in person, isn't it better than being friends on Facebook

[XRabbitHeartX]

How often do you get to see him in person? If often, then him texting once or twice shouldn't be a huge issue as he may just not be a big texter. If he hardly ever sees you in person though then it's a red flag that he's not really 100% in it

[Asker]

Once maybe 2xs a week but he lives 35min away

[XRabbitHeartX]

I see... well then maybe it's time to tell him you'd to text more and to see his reaction :)

[XRabbitHeartX]

*like to

[Anna96]

Perhaps he is leading you on? Who wouldn't be facebook friends with the person you have been dating for the last 5 months?

[Asker]

Would 5 months be a really long time to lead someone on? We talked for a yr or so before we even dated

[Anna96]

5 months of dating and not even facebook friends? To me it sounds like it.

[Asker]

This is gonna sound dumb but he pinky promised he would do it eventually lol so I don't know :/ hope he isn't leading me on

[Anna96]

It's nice that you believe in him but perhaps it's time to actually talk about it? :)

[Asker]

I'll try and talk to him about it again then

[Anna96]

Good idea :)

[JohnDoe3000]

You try thinking of something interesting to message during work, more than twice a day, for months and months on an end... He's just a guy, not an Austenian character...

If you see him after work then two messages per day is enough, unless he blatantly cuts off a conversation that you were leading.

[JuicyBrain]

Why would you worry about that? Does he talk to you in some other manners? Why is the platform important?

[Asker]

In person and texting is the only ones I see him once or twice a week

[JuicyBrain]

Personally, I hate texting, if he does too, that might explain it. Maybe there is some other way for you two to talk during the week?

[Asker]

I don't like texting either... I tried phone calls and he said he hates phone calls so I'm kinda out of luck

[JuicyBrain]

Hahaha! Sounds like he needs you to be present. Have you tried email? it's actually very different from text.

[Asker]

No I haven't tried it... don't have his email actually

[Asker]

I might give it a whirl

[JuicyBrain]

I hate texting, but I am very good at email. I can write pages and pages and really put meat on the bone. Maybe he will be the same?

[Asker]

Ill see if that is something that he would be into! Thanks for the advice!

[madhatters4]

the frequency of texting isn't all that concerning. have you tried adding him on facebook? you guys of course can be fb friends without doing the whole relationships status

[UnderlyDedicated]

Hm... maybe. Depends how serious he is with you. Just because he isn't serious now doesn't mean he won't be later. The relationships that take time and go slow are the best ones.

[levantine99]

he texts you too much. mine hates etxting even more. thankfully i'm the rare exception of a woman who is like him... .

[Anonymous]

it seems strange if he was busy with a lot of work its undestandable, but not after 5 months seems like he is hiding something or not much interested, some people who date dont talk each day even so at least you guys talk, but can yu see if he just reads your message and avoids or tried asking him why its only twice? because each day being once or twice seems like a routine for him now

[Asker]

Work and he's not a good texter... it's only been for a week and a half roughly... before it would take him minutes to hours to text back... he says he doesn't text his own sister back sometimes... we got into a fight about it (along with other things) and he said he would try to change but change is slow with him... so far he has gotten a little bit better (other than the texting part)

[Megabeauty]

5 months not being fb friends or meeting his family is long. the text is nbd

[darkfoxjj]

If he'd text you more you'd probably think he was being clingy and you''d lose interest fast.

[SarahsSummer]

I'd worry more about the other things than the amount of times he texts in a day. A lot more.

[NikoTam]

Yes you should worry, because you're dated five months ago and you haven't met any his family and friends, it's really strange and he hid something I think

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

In a world where relationships are valued by texts and facebook statuses 🙄...

[Anonymous]

No... he is busy. Guys tend not to be attached tot heir phones all day.. we have lives and jobs.

[Mesonfielde]

I barely ever text although I do talk on Skype

[NajemEddine]

should he talk to u 24/7😑😑😑

[Anonymous]

He just might not be into texting

[Gagmania]

And the country?