It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. Agree or Disagree?

[HawkPerception]

Agree

Disagree

It depends. (Explain)

[choco-latte]

Depends on the context I guess. If it’s something harmless or that will be beneficial for you but your family or someone else doesn’t want you to go through with it or trying to control your actions, then it’s better to do what you want and if you are justified you shouldn’t even have to ask for forgiveness. But if it’s just something selfish that will hurt others, then even if you ask for forgiveness the person affected by your actions isn’t compelled to accept it. Even if they do, they may never heal from it that will put a damp on your relationship. So better to make sure everything is clear before you make any decision.

[HawkPerception]

Excellent answer

[choco-latte]

Thank you for MHO :)

[DishLady]

Funny you ask the question. That was the favorite statement of … that guy… and he said it around this time of year when we were in the thick of coordinating something. I quickly learned that the jerk who is willing to make that comment is willing to offer neither the request for permission nor forgiveness bc he’s just not a gentleman.

[HawkPerception]

I completely agree. I honestly think anyone who has this kind of thinking is just not a good person at their core.

[DishLady]

Correct.

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s not always easier, but it’s usually better.
Sometimes you end up in a “It seemed like a good idea at the time” situation. Groveling for forgiveness is not going to be easy in those circumstances.
Sometimes you get a win and the person or people who would likely have denied permission to implement a given plan end up sort of eating crow. A perfectly sarcastic “I’m sorry” is then easy to muster with a confident smirk. Ell oh ell!

[AviatorTom]

It depends on the situation.

One of the informal rules we had at work was "Do what makes sense and beg forgiveness later."

I sometimes use that rule in my everyday life.

[Ill_made_Knight]

If I find this is a pattern in some I deal with regularly, I won't be dealing with them for long. That's not good faith, and removes any say I may have in the situation. May as well just say "I figured you'd say no, and it was what I wanted so..." kind of like East Wings and Ballrooms.

[HawkPerception]

Excellent answer

[Ill_made_Knight]

thanks, very kind.

[MisterWack]

Some don’t want to ask prior and if they made a bump in the road with their poor judgment and poor comprehension then they’ll ask for forgiveness.
And no those people won’t learn, they’ll keep asking for forgiveness never asking a shred of permission that would help clarify things beforehand.

[whocares1972]

If you have to ask for forgiveness, then you were never looking for permission. That's selfish behavior.

[WhitneySnow]

It depends. Some people find forgiving others harder than giving them permission.

[jamesgoldman]

It depends, as a teenager sneaking out sure but rape is never defendable

[exitseven]

I agree. when you ask for permission, everything gets more complicated.

[Cidknee]

I disagree. Both are as easy to me.

[Humbertleinad]

It depends on the situation

[NathanDavis]

disagree

[gasman70]

it is, but will they accept your apology

[mar301]

No, I don't agree.