Help me figure out his behaviours towards me?

[Anonymous]

He always tells me that he likes me and that he wants me and enjoys spending his time with me.. that said he’s been chasing me for almost a year now and overall we’ve been talking for two years almost BUT I don’t feel it I don't know if it’s because we’re long distanced or not but I tried to believe his feelings and when I’m about to tell him “yeah maybe I have same feelings for you” he ruins it right before me confessing my feelings he ruins it with his delayed ass messages that don’t even do much bc of how cold they are.. he never posts new pics of him although I ask him to do so and he just plays it off cool saying he doesn’t have any new ones which I certainly don’t believe.. He never asks me questions that show how much he gives a damn.. Never to dive deep down into the conversation.. never sends me gifts or something sweet such as a reel on Instagram expressing his damn love for me and it goes on and on… Y'all tell me if I’m tripping or he doesn’t love me like he claims!! Mind y’all I did once hint about me starting having something for him so he should know and instead of ruining it every time he should know how to win my heart! On the other side, he kinda cares when I ghost him he’s always the one to text first saying how much he misses me and how he can’t complete his day without me and when I did no contact with him he still came and left messages saying hope everything is alright and even shared food pics with me as he usually does, not to mention when I tried to push him away from me he insisted that he would never give up on me and blah blah blah I don't know but I’m hella confused!

He doesn't love you.. GIRLL RUN AWAY

He does love you but he's being careful.. Waiting for you to fully confess first

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl that really does sound confusing! A few things stand out to me:

- Saying all the right things about liking you and wanting you, but his actions don't really match up.

- Delayed responses and cold messages aren't how you treat someone you're really into. Seems low effort.

- No pics, gifts, or sweet gestures after chasing you for so long? That's strange.

- Caring when you ghost him is more like not wanting to lose the attention than actually being into you, ya know?

- Always talking about not giving up but not actually stepping up? Lame.

I feel like he keeps you on the back burner just enough to not totally lose you, but isn't fully committing either. Maybe he likes the idea of you more than the reality of dating long distance.

If it were me, I'd stop putting so much energy into waiting for him to come through. See how he acts if you pull back more for real. Give him a taste of his own medicine!

You deserve someone who enthusiastically shows you they want only you, girl. Don't settle for lukewarm attention. You got this!

[Changiis07]

Actions speak louder than words so if he is consistently trying to text you or call you, spend time with you then you will know and not have to question it but if he isn't doing as much as you'd like and you have communicated that with him then maybe it's time to think if you want to continue specially if it's a long distance relationships since those rarely work out. As long as you have communicated what you want from him and if he still has not made you feel cared or wanted it's time to think about what you want..

[Anonymous]

Try and see him in person more. Communication over long distances can get murky.