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I feel like my ex was emotionally abusive. I used to really be into her more than she was into me. She used tell me “I didn’t want this relationship, you did”. And when people would ask how we met she’d say “I didn’t wanna date him”. I explained to her how it hurts me when she says these things m. And she’d say “you’re just insecure”.

What’s even worse, she told me about how before we started dating. She went on dates with guys who she really liked and they rejected her. So am I the nice guy who finished last?

I used to be highly attracted to her. She never wanted sex with me, at the same time, complaining that her ex boyfriend didn’t want sex with her. She barely wanted to be affectionate with me.

Even worse, she used deliberately turn me on so she could sexually reject me. Would tell me “come over I’ll lick your balls and your butt” and refuse sex when I show up. Every single time we’d have an argument, even if it’s minor she’d say “you’re getting none”. So I started keeping silent to avoid conflict.

She used to complain that I’m not making her happy and give me reasons why. Which I’ll admit I’m not perfect, I know I have my flaws and bad habits, but. When I’d tell her what she’s doing to make me unhappy she’d reply “you knew I was a bitch when you met me”.

About 3 weeks ago we went to a Thanksgiving dinner at her friends house and I felt like she was kinda flirty with a guy. She seemed very touchy with him. I even saw her put her arm around him. I mentioned it to her a few days later. About how I was uncomfortable with how she behaved with him, and again. Told me “im insecure” and broke up with me. Denied ever putting her arm around him when I saw her do it.

It’s been a couple weeks and I’m still emotionally hurting over her. Haven’t been able to eat or sleep. Having nightmares and visions of her in bed with other men. I’ve dated and had sex with other women since. But I still can’t get her out of my head. What should I do?

Here is my mom in a nutshell:

- Lebanese-American Christian of Armenian descent (ex-Catholic)

- born in one of the years of Generation X to a Baby Boomer mother and a pre-Baby Boomer father

- kinda okay with gays, but not fully in-line with the LGBTQ community

- thinks guns should be more restrictive to own

- pro-choice and pro-life at the same time

- is almost completely on board with Trump (and prefers him over other Republican candidates, too)

- supported Barack Obama way back in 2008, but became far more conservative over the years

- divorced once, but currently married to a father with one son of their own

- huge Tucker Carlson and Candace Owens fan, and somewhat likes Andrew Tate and Elon Musk

- not a fan of Hollywood or most of its celebrities, but a huge enjoyer of the film "Sound of Freedom"

- smokes cigarettes so much that she makes me even buy some for her sometimes

- believes marijuana should be legalized especially for medical use

- absolutely hates Biden and dislikes every politician associated with him regardless of party/ideology

- doesn't like Israel at all, but her stance on Palestine is still very unpredictable

- acknowledges and supports DACA to a certain degree; she was actually highly disappointed that a hardworking janitor was no longer able to work for her building management

- works full-time (usually from 8:30am-5:30pm)

- has just recently homeschooled her and her husband's son

- God, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Bible are the absolute truths in this world; she expects me not to take the Bible too literally, though

- believes in holistic health

- believes in the cure of autism

- absolutely hates communists, socialists, and cancel culture

- not necessarily anti-vax, but "will not comply" in the near future after getting two shots and a booster

- pretty much anti-mainstream media (unless it's conservative mainstream or religious media like Washington Examiner, Fox News, CBN, etc.)