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So, I am a second-generation immigrant from a very traditional and conservative country, now living in one of the most liberal Western countries in the world. I am very grateful to be living here as the quality of life and opportunities are just a lot better; however, needless to say, the cultural differences are immense.

One of the things that always bothered me growing up was this "rush" to lose your virginity, especially as a guy. My friends would drag me along to clubs and stuff, and I'm not a bad-looking guy by any means, and opportunities for me to have "one-night stands" have presented themselves, but I never really had any interest in this.

Call me corny, but the idea of being intimate with someone I do not have a very strong emotional connection with, someone who couldn't be my wife in the future, did not appeal to me.

Guys talk about this stuff, and I am open about this in my friend group as I don't feel like lying about it, but I find myself being the subject of "virgin" jokes quite often, especially considering my age (which isn't an abnormal thing in my home country).

Now, I know it's all in good fun and I know they have no malicious intent, but I can't help but wonder if this would be a problem for potential future mates. So my question to you girls is, if a guy you were dating in his mid to late twenties said he was a virgin, would you immediately associate that with negative attributes? Would this be a problem or perhaps not your first choice, would you be indifferent or heck even prefer it?

So growing up In America, I was raised by foster care system. And I was always told that because I'm a man "I must" get in touch with my emotions." I must because I'm male " get in touch with my feelings etc. however these same people would spew hurt and by hurt I mean words. After a hour they would harress me by asking talk about it. I teel them when I'm ready to talk about it I Will. I am not ready please give me to E to help and recover. But because of me being a boy,. They kept pushing. They never understood that I wasn't ready.

This girl who I don’t know really all that well but I knew growing up recently decided to block me. I wasn’t really interested in dating her or anything. Just wanted to have a friendly conversation. I’m talkative, but can be a bit awkward sometimes.

I’m kind of down about this simply because I wasn’t really aware I was bothering her much, and fear being viewed as a bad person. I know I’m bad at reading signals, but I legitimately want to improve this.