Why does my dad keep picking fights with me? Growing up he made inappropriate comments about my body and my age and my intelligence?

[Anonymous]

Random yesterday he said I was 28 knowing that I literally would be 28 next year. Way later. Not anytime soon. And he started to get mad when I corrected him. He knows my birthday. And he is a freakin creep and weirdo. He was abusive growing up and would hit me and slam me into the walls when my mom wasn't there. And I would always wonder why my mom had to marry this piece of crap monster. And he kept on cheating with women my age and younger. And giving sex workers money. My mom keeps making excuses underneath the book. I feel like he resents his mom because she had left him to live with his older brothers when he was 16. She only took his younger sister and moved out to another state. Right after she had divorced my grandfather for cheating and after he had abused his older sister. My dad always for years gave me bad vibes. That gut feeling. I would always get bad major anxiety. And everybody would see how horrible my dad is. My mom and little sister make me so mad. Because they always project and blame it on me. He would literally start a fight with me for no reason. And my little sister would go off on me and say it's my fault when it isn't my fault at all. I would tell her to mind her place. But she should be the one to tell him to start picking fights with me. I hate when people act oblivious. My dad seems to always hate my success. He never is happy for me nor my brother whenever we would do well for ourselves. He would make bogus comments about our age and us being young. My dad is so selfish because he purposely ruined my 25th birthday party. By bringing drama because he claimed he fell in love with "a sex worker" I found out she was one online that's how I knew. And was planning on leaving my mom who is sick. For this nasty w****! I would always feel very uncomfortable around my dad and feel like I have to cover myself up. Because back then he would make comments about my breast and butt being a certain size.

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1 y

My family are big hypocrites! Because every single time a girl talks about being abused. They would act upset about it. But when they know what happened to me and how my dad did me. They would make excuses underneath the book. That's why people don't like my dad.

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1 y

My mom did admitted that she has some fault of why I grew up in a home that wasn't peaceful. I hated going home back then. I would get bad anxiety and want to cry. I hated school growing up too. Because I was bullied bad! By a lot of teachers and kids. Growing up wasn't fair for me. I was sexual abused by a few members at a place of worship. I told my dad about it and he didn't believe me

[Skinhead-1979]

It's sound to me your dad either has 'Narcissistic Personality Disorder', or at the very least 'ticks a lot of boxes'.

Your mother and younger sister would be called 'Flying Monkeys' because they enable and participate in the abuse.

"When people discuss narcissists, they sometimes use the phrase 'flying monkeys. ' Flying monkeys refer to people who carry out the work of a narcissist or an abusive person, and it comes from The Wizard of Oz, in which the Wicked Witch of the West puts flying monkeys under her spell."

My ex has no doubt 'NPD', my dad might do, my mum ticks boxes... Now, because I have been a victim of Narcissistic abuse I might all of sudden 'see' Narcissists everywhere; but read up on the personality disorder and decide for yourself whether your dad ticks all the boxes or some.

Only 1 way to deal with a Narcissist: Leave, save yourself.

[AviatorTom]

You have a lot of pent up anger. Have you considered counseling to help you deal with that?

[IslaTheWitch]

you answered your question... he is who he is... if you don't like it, move out or visit him less or not at all, don't do birthday parties at his place...