Why is my dad always on me for everything I am doing, and I am 36 years old?

[NicoleM300]

I just turned 36 years old, and I feel like a child.

I want to be the Adult I want to be, but I can't because my dad is on my ass all the time. When I go to the gym, when I go to work, who I date, if I forget to do something, if I am eating food and what I am wearing. He is trying to help but his words are not helping me to feel confident in myself.

I am getting ready to walk out the door, but I have no money to do this. This is also because I have been in relationship that they didn't know about, and I only lied because my dad is never happy with anything. I lied because I don't want to have to tell them everything I do.

I feel like a horrible person right now, and I want to tell him to back off, I have but my dad didn't like me speaking my mind either, so I can't even get angry.

If anyone knows how I feel and what to do, then let me know and give me some advice, please and thanks.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You have to get out from under him.

Stand up to him.

Move in with your boyfriend if you must (don't recommend it, you may end up in another abusive situation).

Get a job, screw whatever your dad says, and start saving to move out.

Find a small, affordable apartment close to your work, or a room in a shared home with peoole you can trust. Save up 6mths rent and a few thousand for new furniture, and as soon as you have that (keep the money separate from your parents), get out.

Reach out to women's shelters in your area. See if they have resources you can lean on.

But get out of that house. If you're 36, you're gonna have a lot of catching up to do.

[kylee2437]

Your parents are obviously treating you as a reflection of how you are choosing to live, which is in their home.

[NicoleM300]

I guess I need to look at it for their side instead of getting mad at them.

[RHK36]

If you're living at home, you can't say shit. Don't like it, move out. You claim to be grown, but in their eyes you haven't if you still at home. If you live away from why listen to all the bs parents spew. Most parents all mean well when they so judgmental. At the end of the day they want what's best for you regardless if they're wrong. Just gotta ignore it and let it go.

[NicoleM300]

Maybe they are right about things and I am being angry for no reason. I probably should listen to people who care for me. I still have some things I need to work on anyway..

[Anonymous]

Mine is dead. I'm in my 30s too. Don't take it for granted

[NicoleM300]

I am sorry about that.